If your child forgot her school project the day it was due, would you bring it to school?

This has happened to me twice recently with my 11-yr old daughter who is in middle school. The last time, on the way home, I thought to myself: maybe I shouldn't have taken it to her and it would have taught her more responsibility. What do you think?


Asked by Amazinggrace75 at 8:44 PM on Dec. 9, 2008 in School-Age Kids (5-8)

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  • Maybe once. Maybe. He or she can always take it to school themselves the next day and possibly get partial credit. If they are upset or embarrassed, so be it. It's a temporary feeling and it won't kill them. It will provide incentive to make sure they don't forget important things again. Learing to take responsibility for your actions (or inactions) is an important lesson and I don't want my kids always relying on someone else to save them.

    Answer by DEpley at 11:36 PM on Dec. 9, 2008

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  • well i normally would, if it wasn't an all the time occurance. maybe when she's a little older if it happens alot then you can stop.

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:47 PM on Dec. 9, 2008

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  • I would! My mom would do that to me. I was and still am very forgetful. It would make me mad. I would have it set out so I wouldn't forget and I would anyway, and my mom would tell me maybe you should have forgotten. Made me so mad.

    Answer by Amber1109 at 8:48 PM on Dec. 9, 2008

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  • yes...my mom has done it for me...i see it this way grades are more important then the gas you can say. since projects make up for a lot of your grade.
    But there was always concenquise for her having to come up there...like do the dishes 1 or 2 nights i didtn have too...or clean the bathroom...sometimes she would make me write a paragraph about what would happened if she didnt bring it up there and i had to read it to the family...what works best for you.
    but yes take it up there by all means

    Answer by mama2twins07 at 8:49 PM on Dec. 9, 2008

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  • I have 4 boys and one of them happens to be extremely unorganized and always doing stuff like you explained in you post. I tried to teach him to be more responsible, but it never did stick. He was the only one like that. One of my sons is very organized and rarely make a mistake like that, but I raised them the same. Go figure. Lol. I would take it to her. It can also teach her team work and that family is there for you.

    Answer by pinkink at 8:53 PM on Dec. 9, 2008

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  • I wouldn't, that is a good way to teach them responsibility and then maybe next time they will remember


    Answer by Anonymous at 9:00 PM on Dec. 9, 2008

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  • I would. I would hate to think of them being upset about it. I would mention that it was inconvenient and that I didn't want to make a habit of it. And if it got to be habitual, that would be it.

    Answer by Bmat at 9:06 PM on Dec. 9, 2008

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  • if i was a SAHM i would have, but not if i am late for work

    Answer by charisma10 at 9:16 PM on Dec. 9, 2008

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  • I have, & as upset as I can recall I was, (b/c I was risking getting to work late) my anger would disappear once I'd handed her the project when she'd thanked me with a huge hug & a smile. Later on in life you can @ least say it's not that big of a deal in the big scheme of life. If you tell her nicely & calmly just before she goes to bed to try to remember next time with a wink & a hug, trust me, she will at least try. Hence, you get a lot more bees with honey... just my two cents... been there, done that. In the end, she will have good memories of you having gone out of your way, unless of course if it becomes habitual.

    Answer by Bellafleurs at 9:31 PM on Dec. 9, 2008

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  • I would do it! I wouldn't want the poor kid embarassed in front of the whole class because he/she forgot the project. It sucks when you forget something and the teacher looks at you like you're a jerk, you know?

    Answer by beforeyoureyes at 9:37 PM on Dec. 9, 2008

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