Do you prefer that your doctor is male or female?

This is my fourth pregnancy, and I've had an even split with my doctors gender... my first two pregnancies, I had male doctors, and my last two pregnancies, female. I have to say, I really prefer the female doctors. It's not so much that they're more competent, it's just that they're women, and both of them have had children, so they understand first hand when I explain to them that I've been having braxton-hicks, or when I explain the pain of the baby kicking my cervix. That, and call me old fashioned, but I don't like the idea of a guy I'm not sleeping with staring at my vagina. I was just wondering what the genders of your doctors were, and if you felt that it made a difference.

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prinzesstephi

Asked by prinzesstephi at 6:47 AM on Dec. 11, 2008 in Pregnancy

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  • I had a horrible experience with a female doctor on my first couple pregnancy visits with my son so I switched to a male and could not have been happier! He knew exactly what was goin on at each stage because his wife was due 2 weeks after me.
    This time both my reg doc and my maternal-fetal doc are males and I love them both too.
    urthat1chick

    Answer by urthat1chick at 6:56 AM on Dec. 11, 2008

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  • My bad, Do I think it has made a difference? While females may know what exactly you mean when you say this is happening or this is...I think that my male docs take more time to actually understand and explore what may be happening rather than just brushing it off as normal pregnancy stuff.
    urthat1chick

    Answer by urthat1chick at 6:58 AM on Dec. 11, 2008

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  • See, that was actually the opposite problem that I had. When I was pregnant with my son, I told my doctor (who was male) that I was having severe back pains, and he brushed it off as me being on bedrest. It took my female nurse (who had been pregnant before) to realize that I was in fact in back labor. Even at that point, they didn't even check me for contractions (even though I was hospitalized and would have taken them simply hooking me up to the monitors.)
    prinzesstephi

    Answer by prinzesstephi at 7:03 AM on Dec. 11, 2008

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  • I had a male DR for all 3 of my pregnancies. He was wonderful and he always took the time to talk with me and answer any questions I had. I really think you just have to be comfortable with the person that is going to be your DR.

    I guess for me it would not matter if the DR was male or female as long as I was comfortable with them and I liked them.
    cornflakegirl3

    Answer by cornflakegirl3 at 7:22 AM on Dec. 11, 2008

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  • Male. But Brysons birthmother had a female and she was the first that was AWESOME. She talked, didn't rush people between patients, took her time, answered questions, joked around. I LOVED her!
    babycakes254

    Answer by babycakes254 at 8:00 AM on Dec. 11, 2008

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  • My doctor is male, although male or female, I feel MORE comfortable with someone I'm not sleeping with staring at my vagina! lol. We don't have a lot of choices where I am, but I have looked around and I'm happy with who I picked.
    kabbot01

    Answer by kabbot01 at 8:04 AM on Dec. 11, 2008

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  • For my first few visits I saw a female, but I switched because I didn't like her. She just wasn't personable enough for me. I found a male doctor who would be happy to sit and answer my question and tell me his experiences with his 4 kids. Gender doesn't really matter to me. It's more of a personality thing.
    sbastille

    Answer by sbastille at 8:09 AM on Dec. 11, 2008

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  • I opted for a female dr. the men in the office just seemed as though i was gonna be there first pregnant patient. and it was a big plus that my doctor was pregnant as well and a couple of months ahead of me. so she could personally tell me what to expect step by step. i didn't want someone reciting what they only learned from a text book. it was my first pregnancy so i wanted experience.
    mama28th

    Answer by mama28th at 8:27 AM on Dec. 11, 2008

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  • If your doctor was a few months further along with you while she was your doctor, was she still able to deliver for you? Did she herself go on maternity leave?
    prinzesstephi

    Answer by prinzesstephi at 8:48 AM on Dec. 11, 2008

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  • Last year when I was pregnant with my son I saw a Female OB, I wasn't impressed, I had heard LOTS of good things about her before deciding to go to her and she didn't live up to anything. I MUCH preferred her nurse practitioner, and had she been the one seeing me I would have been totally happy. My actual OB only saw me twice during my pregnancy with my son! In the end that OB was out of town when my water broke at 36 weeks and I had my son, the Doctor on call was male, and very friendly, and believe me, I wasn't thinking anything about the fact that it was a guy down there when I'd been in labor and waiting for him for a LONG time, I just wanted that baby out! With my current pregnancy I've decided to see the male OB who actually delivered my son, it's a night and day difference, and I much prefer my new OB!
    dedicatedrider

    Answer by dedicatedrider at 8:54 AM on Dec. 11, 2008

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