What should I do if my 2-year-old daughter doesn't talk?

My daughter is 2 years old and only says five words: mom, thanks, hi , hot, and bye. Beyond speaking she is very advanced she knows her colors, body parts, and even most of the aphabet though she can't say a single letter. Her hearing is not comprimised, we have had her tested several times. I know she is still young but she is unable to communicate with anyone other than me and I mostly just guess. We have started with early intervention therapy and seeing a speech pathologist. I guess my question is has anyone else ever dealt with this kind of thing? I was hoping to start her in preschool next fall but how can I if she still doesn't speak? I do read to her everyday and work with flash cards also.


Asked by efsuermann at 3:02 PM on Dec. 15, 2008 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • You can put her in pre school in the fall, the state will do that for you. My daughter talked less than that at 2. Have you taken her to a developmental doctor? The state will not tell you what she has if she has anything with a specific name but a developmental doctor can.

    Answer by Dannee at 3:06 PM on Dec. 15, 2008

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  • My 2yo just recently started saying more words. I don't think it's that bad for her to not say many things yet. My cousin didn't really talk until he was about 3 1/2 and he's perfectly normal. I think we all worry about our kids, especially when they aren't just like other kids. It sounds like you're doing all the right things. Good luck!

    Answer by Luvmylilmonkies at 4:25 PM on Dec. 15, 2008

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  • My daughter wasn't speaking when she was 18 months old. By 2 years she wasn't saying much and her frustration was high because she couldn't communicate.
    You are on the right track with Early Intervention. My daughter worked with Early Intervention as well. When she is three she will be released. If you have schools with special ed for speech I would take advantage of that. Because she is working with EI you have a great case to get state funded schooling for your daughter. My daughter is now 3 1/2 years and is in a special ed speech class. I wouldn't put her in a regular class as it will be challenging for her. Get her in a special ed class where she will get all the help she needs. When she is in a setting with other kids like herself she will blossom as my daughter has.
    If you have any more questions and you found my information to be helpful please contact me.

    Answer by lovemy2kidsfor at 8:20 PM on Dec. 15, 2008

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  • my ten yr old didn't talk untill he was 4!
    he's good now, but another option is have you had her checked for autsim?
    not saying she is, but that is a common symptom of it
    but then not every child who doesn't talk has autism

    Answer by bi-polarmommy at 11:52 PM on Dec. 15, 2008

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  • How many kids do you have? My oldest was having conversations with me at 18 months but as I get along with the kids (4 now) their verbal skills deminish. Meaning that my 2nd child did good but took a little longer to talk and then the third a little longer and now the 4th is taking a long time to talk. But I will tell you that if you don't force the issue then they will just point. My cousin did not talk until my aunt realized that he could talk but was not because he could not just that he would not talk to her.

    Answer by tichelle at 10:38 AM on Dec. 16, 2008

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  • my 2 year old is FINALLY putting a couple words together. i think its helped having him in a day care around a lot of kids his age that ARE talking. maybe try surrounding her around other young children that do talk a little and she will try and do as they do. i also read tons of really simple books to him that only have a few words together at a time and he will try to copy me
    in the end all kids are different, some talk early and some late

    Answer by learae at 1:59 PM on Dec. 16, 2008

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  • My son didn't start talking till he was 3....its not because he had any learning disabilities or what not. He just wasn't ready...he is 4 now and I cannot get him to be quiet!!!


    Answer by MaMa2_DJ_IJ at 6:35 PM on Dec. 16, 2008

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  • My nephew had a hard time learning to speak because all he heard in his first year was Cambodian and then he moved in with my parents and heard English all the time. He is very smart and very bright just like your daughter. As long as you are doing what you can to help her learn new things, and her docs are aware, she should be fine. She is processing other information right now. She is still learning and showing an interest in communication, that is what is most important. For now if you are worried about her ability to communicate with people besides you try to teach her some hand signals. It doesn't matter if you make them up. If she is sitting in her highchair ask her "Would you like to get down?" and point down when you say it. She'll start to point down to tell you when she is ready to get down on her own. It's obvious you put a lot of effort into raising your daughter. Good luck and keep up the great work!

    Answer by beckcorc at 7:26 PM on Dec. 16, 2008

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  • My 2 year old just started talking two months ago (he's 25 months). He's been in speech therapy for two months. Funny how that timed out, huh? LOL

    My 3 year old is also in speech. He has a very large vocabulary for his age, but his articulation suffers. Preschool isn't a problem...he can still go.

    When she starts, they may want to give a session or two in school, that's common. She'll be fine.

    Answer by TiccledBlue at 6:03 AM on Dec. 18, 2008

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  • Don't panic mine was the same way and one day she burst out. Literally she said 5 words up until she was 2. She has a few speech things we are working with like s, ch, j, and r's but other than that she's fine! Hang in there, give her a chance to talk and hopefully she'll do just what mine did and burst forth. Let me ask this, does she suck her thumb, fingers, or paci? Sometimes that will keep them from talking! Don't worry yet! Make her have to talk. My lil one had 2 bigger siblings so she didnt have to lol.

    Answer by Central_IL_Mom at 8:43 PM on Dec. 22, 2008

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