Can I try the Ferber method on my 3-month-old baby?

This is a method where you let the baby cry in increments, and then go and comfort them. My 3mo old is crying a night time when it is bedtime and now he is crying and won't go down for naps either. I don't know what to do, he is clearly tired but won't settle down.


Asked by Relaxmom512 at 9:18 AM on Dec. 18, 2008 in Babies (0-12 months)

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  • Well this method sounds a lot like CIO which I wouldn't start until much older. My DD did CIO at 10 months. It took 15 minutes two nights then she was sleeping through the night. My son on the other hand is only 3 months so I won't do that yet. When he is too tired and just cries I just keep walking him, trying to feed him, rock him, whatever needs done to where he gives in and sleeps.


    Answer by Anonymous at 9:45 AM on Dec. 18, 2008

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  • At three months any of these cry it out methods are too early. Your baby has to have a clear grasp of cause and effect relationships. I think the best way to get a 3 month old baby to sleep is to physically comfort them. If you don't want to hold him because you're afraid he'll get used to it I would just at least hold his hands or rub his belly while he is laying down.

    Answer by beckcorc at 9:45 AM on Dec. 18, 2008

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  • I personally think 3 months is WAY too young to make them do any sort of crying method of sleep training....or whatever you wanna call it.


    Answer by Navymama at 9:46 AM on Dec. 18, 2008

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  • Nope, I wouldn't do that to a child especially not one so young.

    Answer by Pauline3283 at 10:08 AM on Dec. 18, 2008

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  • The Ferber book says you shouldn't use the method until 5-6 months I think. I have used it with all three of my children and it worked well for us. I have three great sleepers and I am a better mom for the sleep I am able to get at night because we used this method.

    Answer by Aemelia at 11:03 AM on Dec. 18, 2008

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  • i sorta do the ferber method... when its time for naps... he takes 3 to 4 a day, i go in, put him in his bed, and he fusses a little, then i go back after about 5 minutes of fussing, then i roll him over onto his tummy and he falls asleep, the naps work, but he doesnt sleep to long, but when its bed time, i do the same thing, but i sing to him, or hum, and go in about three times, and then i roll him over onto his tummy and he falls asleep. He has been sleeping thru the night since he was 4 weeks old, a few times he has woken up, usually with a wet diaper. But then i can usually quickly change him and get him back to sleep. i dont do dream feeds, or pick him up once he's in bed, unless he's freaking out, which there was only been one occurance

    Answer by sweetscrappin at 11:06 AM on Dec. 18, 2008

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  • i should also say that i didnt start this until he was about 3-4 months... the way i got him to sleep when he was 4 weeks to 3months, was patience... i have always put him on his tummy, he had reflux and it helped so much with getting the gas out, and with getting fluids to his tummy, but i would just pat his back and hum... lately he likes the brady bunch song... i only hum it.. lol and he's out within 5 minutes.. he has learned that his crib is ONLY for sleeping or napping, so he knows when he goes in there, that its time to settle down, and fall asleep.. good luck, if you have any more questions, msg me and I'll try to help...

    Answer by sweetscrappin at 11:09 AM on Dec. 18, 2008

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  • ferber is just not right for me or my family.
    babies cry for a reason and i think just leaving them to cry is, well, not right.
    not trying to 'bash' anyone, just stating my opinion on the matter.

    Answer by heatherama at 11:18 AM on Dec. 18, 2008

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  • I can't do the ferber method either... we cosleep now (my son is almost 6 months) but he is starting to sleep in his crib for naps and usually falls asleep to a mobile or a music thing. I did notice a few days ago that he fell asleep on his side sucking on his teddy bear (when I put him to bed at night I lie down with him breastfeeding). He might whine for a minute or two but if he starts crying I pick him up, he will usually have gas, a burp, or something so I just can't do it...

    Answer by cbarlow555 at 12:18 PM on Dec. 18, 2008

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  • When you are getting ready to put him down make sure he has eaten a good meal, taken a warm bath and is swaddled. You'd be surprised what swaddling will do for a baby. As far as the comfort thing it's a good idea. Go in check on him, give him the paci if he takes one, and soothe him till he calms down. Then walk out, try not to talk while you are in with him as this wakes them up more. Just be consistent each night with a routine and he will eventually catch on.

    Answer by sidzwif at 1:15 PM on Dec. 18, 2008

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