How do you handle it if your husband doesn't want you to breastfeed?

I didnt breastfeed my 1st child but I want to with my 2nd. My DH is like hell no. I guess he's like that becuz we've seen women just pull there breast out right in public and he thinks I'm going to do that. I have respect but that still doesn't convince him. Any advice?


Asked by Anonymous at 3:39 PM on Dec. 22, 2008 in Babies (0-12 months)

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  • does he know the benafits of breastfeeding? Try getting him some information on how importent it is for baby.
    My husband wasnt thrilled at fist i wanted to breastfeed this baby but after reading into it more and talking to my BIL who has children i think he relized how natural it was and how importent it was for baby.

    Answer by Mommy2B04 at 3:41 PM on Dec. 22, 2008

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  • I would do it whether he likes it or not because the benefits of breastfeeding are worth it. I would show him the information and tell him its the way its gonna be, plain and simple. I never had the problem myself, in fact my dh wanted me to breastfeed because he knew how much better it was for the baby.

    Answer by gemgem at 3:43 PM on Dec. 22, 2008

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  • well tell him tough crap. your going to do it. what is he going to do let the baby starve. it's your baby and your body and god made us to do that. don't fight over it. then make or buy a hooter hider.

    Answer by melody77 at 3:44 PM on Dec. 22, 2008

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  • Tell him that since you have to carry and push this baby out you get to choose how it is fed. When he carries one he can decide... no seriously though I would play up how Breastfeeding will be beneficial to YOU. It makes a huge difference in the healing process postpardum. Your uterus shrinks back faster and bleeding stops sooner, it stimulates the release of a hormone that helps keep postpardum depression at bay (which is a really sucky ailment by the way)cont

    Answer by humaniterian87 at 3:45 PM on Dec. 22, 2008

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  • AND some women burn MORE calories nursing than when they were pregnant. I dropped 11 pounds the first week of nursing. It's also very good for baby very economical( free plus can be left at room temp for 6-10 hours which means a LOT less waste compared to formula) and very conveinent. Remind him it will help you to keep stress levels lower and we all know if momma aint happy aint nobody happy. Give that a shot. OH and no to mention MINIMAL bottle washing because seriously who likes washing bottles

    Answer by humaniterian87 at 3:45 PM on Dec. 22, 2008

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  • My experience with this was b/c he claimed they (my boobs) were HIS territory and no one else's including the baby! Well, I did it anyway. He hated it and made my life miserable during the time I BF, but I feel I made the right decision. I looked at it this way: No matter what - I am this baby's mother. HE on the other hand could always be replaced!

    Answer by Babylove76 at 3:45 PM on Dec. 22, 2008

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  • My sicko ex husband didn't want me to breastfeed because he thought he should be the only one sucking on my breasts! WTF, I told him!!! He wanted me to give him my breastmilk. What a psycho! I bottle fed my kids, but only because I had to. The doctor said my milk was no good and was coming out like water.

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:49 PM on Dec. 22, 2008

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  • wow. havent heard shit like that before.

    it doesnt matter if he knows the benefits of breastfeeding or not. he seems to be a selfish asshole.

    im really sorry to say that. i know he is your hubby and you love him. but thats just plain stupid.

    Answer by m.robertson811 at 3:50 PM on Dec. 22, 2008

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  • If you want to do it, you need to try to get his support. Breastfeeding isn't always easy, but having a supportive husband can make it a lot easier. I would try to help him learn as much about it as you can; make sure he is aware of the benefits to you and the baby. Don't forget to tell him that you won't have to buy formula and remind him how much that stuff costs (saving money is usually a pretty good selling point for men). You might even try to get your doctor on board with promoting the benfits to your husband if he comes to any appointments. Good luck.

    Answer by TweenAndTwinMom at 3:52 PM on Dec. 22, 2008

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  • Educate him. Once you know the facts there is no denying what is best for both you and your baby. Only someone who does not have the fact could possibly respond in such an ignorant way.

    Answer by gramsmom at 3:58 PM on Dec. 22, 2008

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