Is it ok to let my baby sleep in bed with me?

It seems like my 3month old will sleep very well throughout the night if he sleeps in bed with me...but as soon as i put him in the crib, he will cry. I know that the longer i let him do this, the harder it will be to get him used to a crib. How can I get him to sleep in the crib?


Asked by JulesMommy1008 at 6:07 PM on Jan. 1, 2009 in Babies (0-12 months)

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  • I wouldn't have him in the bed, greater chance for sids and you could roll over on him. Try to get one of those bed for him that attaches to your bed.


    Answer by Anonymous at 6:08 PM on Jan. 1, 2009

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  • It isnt bad for them to sleep with you. In fact there are many psychological benefits to cosleeping with your child. If you want him out then you will have to either put him in his crib cold turkey and let him cry it out and check on him every so often while hes crying, or wean him off.

    Answer by gemgem at 6:08 PM on Jan. 1, 2009

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  • There is no greater chance of SIDS with safe co-sleeping. I'd let him keep sleeping with you as long as you can do it safely. It actually reduces the risk of SIDs
    When using a standard, off-the-floor bed, be absolutely sure that your baby cannot roll or fall off the sides.

    Young infants should sleep between their mother and the bed rail, not between both parents or beside an older sibling.


    Answer by Pauline3283 at 6:10 PM on Jan. 1, 2009

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  • cont' Make sure that your mattress or futon provides a firm sleeping surface. Never, ever allow an infant to sleep on a waterbed, featherbed, beanbag, deep pillowtop mattress or other inappropriately soft surface.

    Never sleep with your baby if you are under the influence of drugs, alcohol or prescription medication that makes you unusually groggy or sleepy.

    Exceptionally obese parents should use a sidecar arrangement (crib attached to the side of the bed) rather than having a young infant in the bed with them.

    Do not overload your bed with excessive pillows, blankets, or stuffed animals.


    Answer by Pauline3283 at 6:11 PM on Jan. 1, 2009

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    Never fall asleep on a couch, sofa, or overstuffed chair with your baby.

    Do not stuff too many bodies into a bed with a small baby.

    Make sure that your baby isn't overdressed. Remember, the body heat in a family bed makes most bedtime bundling unnecessary.

    Dress your baby in safe sleepwear. Flame retardant with no strings or ties, just as you would if she were sleeping alone.

    Answer by Pauline3283 at 6:11 PM on Jan. 1, 2009

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  • My kiddos slept with me till they were 3 years old and it only took me one night to get them to sleep in their own beds. When they are ready they are ready. I think the Family bed is the healtiest way to sleep for all concerned. It doesn't work for everyone but for many it does. Our kids to this day (they are 6 and 9) still know that if they need us in the night they can come in a snuggle with us whenever they need to. Our 9 year old son rarely does this but our 6 year old Daughter is in quite frequently with nightmares. She doesn't stay long, just enough to calm her down then she's back to her bed.

    Answer by happyathomemum at 6:14 PM on Jan. 1, 2009

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  • As the other responders said, the chances for SIDS does not increase with co-sleeping, some studies actually show the opposite. If you are responsible, then there are not additional risks. Make sure your baby cannot fall out of bed or become trapped between the mattress and the wall, as this is how most accidents happen. Also do not use thick blankets and keep pillows away from the baby! There is no harm in sleeping with your baby, almost every culture around the world besides the US practices this. Historically babies slept with their mothers to keep warm at night.

    Answer by MommyJanelle at 6:28 PM on Jan. 1, 2009

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  • My babys sleeps with me. It just makes it easier to nurse and I like having her there. It doesn't post a greater risk for SIDS thats only if they sleep in an adult bed by themselves thats soft or somthing else thats soft. Just keep placing him in the crib when he falls alseep and if and when he wakes up calm him down again and repeat it. It might take a few nights though.

    Answer by letlovegrow at 6:29 PM on Jan. 1, 2009

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  • Everything Pauline has said!

    Answer by babycakes254 at 6:32 PM on Jan. 1, 2009

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  • It is bad not to.

    A baby that young is fearful of being eaten. We are one of the only species not to have a defense mechanism against predators. For instance baby snakes can be more poisonous than their parents to protect them from predators. Us? nothing!

    Just because you know he is safe doesnt mean he knows.....he needs you.

    Its not the longer you let him the harder it will be for him to go his own bed - it WILL be harder for him if you shove him out when he isnt ready...but as long as you go at his own pace it wont be an issue.

    If anything you are showing him that he is protected and loved unconditionally keeping him in bed with you. To not want him close and to not have him close to me is what is wrong with the world. Poor babies.

    Answer by keyaziz at 6:36 PM on Jan. 1, 2009

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