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Kids Top 5 Questions about bedwetting

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 1. Why am I bedwetting? The National Kidney Foundation (NKF) says kids who wet the bed don't do it on purpose. It happens because kids don't wake up when they need to use the bathroom. It may also be happening because the kidney makes too much urine during sleep, the bladder is unable to hold urine or there's a hereditary link (i.e., bedwetting runs in the family). It also can be caused by another medical problem. "Depending on the child's age and medical status, there may be different reasons for bedwetting," says Dr. Sophy. A trip to the doctor's office will help rule out any underlying medical causes. When asked this question by a patient, Dr. Michael Wasserman - a pediatrician with the Ochsner Clinic Foundation in New Orleans, La. - says he tells them that urinary bladders, the place that stores the urine they make, have control systems that do not always work well but will do so as the child matures. 2.How can I stop bedwetting? You and your child can work together to find the bedwetting management technique that works best for you and your family. Seek out assistance from the doctor, suggests Dr. Sophy. The NKF suggests some management techniques for the child to discuss with a parent and doctor: * Don't drink a lot before bedtime. * Avoid drinks with caffeine. * Have a family member wake the child up at night to use the bathroom if the child isn't able to get himself up. * Use a calendar to keep track of wet and dry nights. * Ask the doctor about treatments that might help. * Wear disposable underpants for relief and to prevent wet sheets. "Of those kids who bedwet, 15 percent will stop each year, regardless of what therapy we choose to do or not do," says Dr. Wasserman. "So time is on the child's side, meaning that this usually goes away." 3. Do any of my friends wet the bed at night? Bedwetting is more common than people may think! Tell your child that more than five million children in the United States continue to wet the bed past the age of 6, according to the NKF, and most of them outgrow it. So it is likely that your child knows someone who wets the bed. 4. Is bedwetting normal? In general, the vast majority of children who bedwet are medically normal, says Dr. Wasserman. In fact, many children who wet the bed have parents who themselves were bedwetters. In some cases, bedwetting may be an expected manifestation of a medical or psychological problem, says Dr. Sophy. An evaluation by a physician should be done to rule out any underlying medical conditions. 5. Am I broken? Another variation of this question is, "Am I different or even defective?" says Dr. Wasserman. This question - along with the others - is usually asked because the child feels different, in a negative way. "Their self-esteem is diminished and this is, by far, the most important aspect of this problem to which their parents should pay attention," says Dr. Wasserman. "Parents need to not make the bedwetting a negative experience but need to focus on the positive accomplishments of the child. Using a reward/recognition system for those dry nights is a beginning. Verbal praise is effective, along with other formats, such as a calendar with stars for dry nights." It's often because of fear, embarrassment and confusion that children ask these particular questions. But sometimes they'll be too caught up in those emotions to ask at all. Dr. Wasserman has found that boys tend to be more uncomfortable than girls to discuss "body function" issues. Interestingly, it's not the kids who usually ask him about bedwetting, but the parents. "[The kids] do not usually articulate their anxieties in a direct fashion, even upon questioning from me," says Dr. Wasserman. All the more reason, then, for parents to be prepared. Parents are best taking their child's lead, says Dr. Sophy. "The older the child, the more the tendency for embarrassment and issues of self-esteem," he says. "In smaller children, confusion and anger [about] the uncontrollable are in the forefront and open. Honest discussion is always best." Let your child draw out how he feels and write accompanying text, and have him end the book the way he likes. Bind the book either by stapling it together or using a three-hole punch and tying the book together with ribbon.

by on Apr. 1, 2009 at 10:16 AM
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by Bronze Member on Jul. 27, 2010 at 4:43 PM

 My daughter has self esteem problems as well.  She is very shy.

Quoting sakeenah35:

Very informative. My biggest issue with my daughter is self esteem. I pray she outgrows this. The doctors always says this, and they dont see a problem.angry


by on Sep. 15, 2010 at 6:50 PM


by Bronze Member on Sep. 16, 2010 at 9:37 AM

Gosh, I wish that this had been posted in paragraphs with spaces.  I could hardly read it. Such a list is very good to have.

by on Sep. 17, 2010 at 12:24 AM


by New Member on Sep. 20, 2010 at 1:17 PM

Quoting Julie25:

I know my son is 9 will be 10 yrs in few months he is still waiting the bed even when I GET HIM UP A COUPLE TIMES @  Night . he was on meds for this but it didnt help at all.

Hi everybody,

I am new to this group and have a 7 y/o son with this issue, I was wondering if anyone has heard of or tried different treatments besides dr.'s recomending drugs, waking and taking to bathroom, limiting fluids and using pull-ups? I have found online a couple of treatment clinics that do something over the phone to help but I'm not sure and am looking for real people who may have tried something like this.

Thank you,


by Member on Sep. 20, 2010 at 11:49 PM

all my boys still wet the bed and have to wear diapers,2 wet in the day as well.

would like to chatt as wel.



by on Sep. 21, 2010 at 1:16 PM


by on Sep. 30, 2010 at 2:07 PM

 My daughter has always wet the bed, she is now 11 (will turn 12 in Dec) I know she worries about. We have talked to her Dr as well. She said her bladder isn't strang enough to hold the urine. And our daughter goes to the bathroom a lot during the day. I had to talk to her teacher one year (when she was 3rd grade) because she couldn't wait to go to the bathroom. After I talked to her teacher she understood and my daughter was allowed to go to the bathroom whenever she needed. Now she has no accidents during the day.

She is now having to worry about going ona school trip in the spring that is a week long. She hasn't mentioned it, but I know she does. We use pull ups, and she has read the American Girl's Body Book, it has a chapter on bed wetting.

Two of her uncles wet the bed too, until they were between 12 and 14.

by New Member on Jul. 5, 2011 at 11:51 PM


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