They have done biopsies to test for stomach cancer on my son:( UPDATE IN POST!!!
My son, who is 18, has been having a lot of stomach problems over the past year or so and they couldn't figure out what is going on...No ulcers, no reflux, all tests were coming back negative. He has a new Gastro Dr and she done an Endoscopy yesterday and found erosion's and bruising in and under the stomach with still no sign of ulcers...She has done some biopsies to check for cancer:( He DOES NOT KNOW what these biopsies were for...He thinks she is just looking for a cause, which she is. I just couldn't see worrying him a/b something that may not even be. If something comes back then we will have to tell him, of course...If not, then he doesn't need unnecessary worry.
I just wanted to share this with you all because I have told no one else but my DH, and I am a/b to die here. I haven't even told mom yet, b/c she doesn't always think before she speaks and I am afraid something might slip without her meaning to...Is that wrong??? Is any of this wrong....Should I tell my son now??? The Mommy in me just wants to protect him right now.
Please, if you are a believer, keep my son in your prayers...If not, send some well wishes his way. Thanks for taking the time to read this.
He does not have cancer...Biopsies came back negative. He does, however, have a severe infection in his stomach which is causing the erosion's....The infection has been there for a while, obviously. His Dr gave him an antibiotic and some other meds she felt were necessary. He has to have 3 more tests done to see if they can find a cause for this infection or if it is just a freak thing.
BTW...He thanked me for not telling him that they were testing for cancer...He said he knew that was a lot for me to take on by myself, but he would have gone crazy worrying a/b it for almost two weeks.
Thank you to everyone!!!!
OMG! yes sending prayers your way. I'm sorry to hear that. He is 18yo I say go ahead and tell him he has a right to know. The last thing you want is for him getting upset with you b/c he thinks you are treating him like a child! But not understanding we as moms still are gonna protect our children no matter the age. Share with him so you all can work together as a family! I pray its nothing! God Bless!
omg, I don't think I would be able to tell him. Just be positive and pray pray pray and when the biopsy comes back negative (it will !!!!!) , then you could tell him about it. Back when my oldest son was about 10, he started getting all these little spots on his body. They did a bone marrow test because they were thinking it was leukemia...but Thank God it was only something called ITP, which was serious but at least it wasn't that dreaded horrible cancer. I never told him what they suspected, although he was young, but I just didn't see a reason to tell him something like that. Prayers for your son and for you too.... just be strong. Everything is going to be ok, and it will be something else that is easily treated. Hugs and prayers...
I'm sorry - I hope the biopsies come back negative for cancer.
But, yes, I think you should tell him. At 18, legally, he is an adult and the doctors no longer need your permission to discuss his treatment with him and could, in fact, bypass you entirely and speak directly to him.
I am so sorry to hear that you're going through this. When my son was 13, he had continuous sharp stomach pains, lost his appetite and nothing the doctors prescribed, such as Prevacid and antibiotics, would help. There were days when he couldn't get out of bed or stand up straight, because he was doubled over in pain. They finally did a biopsy and found nothing, which I was both thankful for and frustrated by. It was a 6 month ordeal and as mysteriously as the symptoms appeared, they disappeared, but he lost over 20lbs in the process. He's now 16 and to this day, I still don't know the cause.
I know your son is 18 and an adult and should be told, but if it were me, I would hold off until I knew for sure. I wouldn't want to cause him additional worry, which might add to his pain, espcially if he is like my son, who is easily affected by stress. I would rather carry my son's pain so that he doesn't have to. I will keep you and your son in my prayers. Please let us know what happens.
Hugs and prayers Momma.I can only imagine how worried you are.I would wait to tell him Honestly he will end up being worried and hopefully for no reason.I pray its not cancer but that they can find something and fix it.Stay strong momma.
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I'm ready to pull the earbuds out of his ears and put them somewhere less comfortable.
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on Nov. 8, 2009 at 11:43 PM