Hello,
I am a new member of this group. I wanted to let you all know a little about me. I am a mom of 6 kids. Ages are, 19, 16, 14, 9, 8, and 7. Yes, I delivered them all, lol.
My 14 year old had a Expulsion hearing this morning. The principal wants him out of the entire school district. If that goes they assume no district would would accept him.
I asked about a extension to give me more time for the hearing, and the answer was, we will have the meeting with or without you. I had asked for an extension a while ago, and then this morning I did some searching on the Internet about parents rights in CA. I finally found a site on Google that said I had the right to a 30 day extension to find a Lawyer or more evidence to help his case. The lady in charge of the meeting had to contact her Attorney to see if I could get the extension, and sure enough I was right. WooHoo, I have 30 more days.
It amazes that this lady did not know about that. That makes me wander what else we do not, and what they do not know. If anyone has any advice about this please let me know? This is my sons life, but to them he is a big problem they have no time for. Teenagers are Teenagers, need I say more? Okay, mayvbe some are worse then others, lol. They makes mistakes and they learn, that is life. There are some that just can't stop, they are all different, but we can't give up on them. If we get them through these 3-5 years they might make it.
Thank you, this group looks great.
Shauna
shauna welcome.I'm sorry if your son is being expelled then its not just being a teen. I hate when people make those general accusations.
.Does your town help you get him into an alternative school? Kids that get expelled from our hs go to another school. Its a HS with teachers that have more experience with troubled teens.I would be asking your school committee members this.ASK them who will be educating this boy.I believe until he is 18 they are committed to educating him.
Thanks for your reply. Yes, he is a little more then a normal teen, but he should not be expelled from the district. I don't really want to broadcast what happened. The final out come is still in limbo, and the school district may decide he should not be expelled. I am not sure what may happen. I wanted to let other parents know about the 30 day extension, because I found out only an hour before the hearing. Always contact the head of your school district to ask questions, and find out all your rights. I am in the San Diego area, I am not sure about other states.
Thank you,
Shauna
What did he do?
I'm a little concerned by your saying this: Teenagers are Teenagers, need I say more? Okay, mayvbe some are worse then others, lol. They makes mistakes and they learn, that is life. There are some that just can't stop, they are all different,
It sounds like your excusing him, and so that's why I'm wondering what he did. If they want him out of the district, wasn't it pretty bad, and if so, how is excusing him helping him? I think I'd tell him "you're in our family, and we don't act like this, we expect you to behave, not only will you have a school consequence, you'll have a home consequence as well".
Might you also look at a different type of school? My oldest had no trouble in a charter school that had rigid expectations of behavior, but became a bit of a problem after her move to an inner city large jr high (tardy to class, missing assignments, a couple tense parent/child morning standoffs when she initially refused to go to school a couple days b/c laying in bed sounded more fun), and so next year she's going to a parochial high school, which I'm betting will get her back on track. She's just not a kid who can handle a school with wide control limits, and so given that, I want her at a smaller school, with strict standards,surrounded by kids who follow those standards, get their homework done and are heading off to college. Very little misbehavior for her to emulate.
Hi, I just read your post " I have a Teen facing Expulsion" first let me say a prayer for you, your teen and your family. It's no doubt that it's tough out there, and our teens have a way of making a bad situation into a one filled with added challenges for both themselves and their "Mama's" if you know what I mean?
I honestly mean it when I say "I'll take the terrible two's anyday over the Teen years"!
My son in his senior year came very close to not graduating, teen age demons came knocking at his door, and without hesitation after all his strick upbringing he just let them in. I say there is two sides to every story. And over the last couple of years I had to admit especially to myself, that my angel of a son had turned into a Jeckyl and Hide right in front of my eyes and I was in denial and his enabler. I thank God that it ended up better than I expected, and though I am not out of the woods completely as yet, I can say that prayers and my acting upon Tough Love (later than I should have), did make a different. My expectations of what I thought my son was going to be and because of the trauma in both our lives plus I was handling more than I believe I could handle was just overwhelming and during the time it was just plain scarey. Without knowing the circumstances and understanding why, I will keep you in my prayers and that the situation will have a way of working out. More importantly that your child recognizes that it's a two way street, and it takes give and take on everyone's part. Hopefully there's the option of another school, or if needed a school where if much discipline is needed, or a place away from home for a while, relative, or boys school or your child recognizes to turn over and not butt the system in the long run it would be to your child's advantage. However, teens can't ration like adults and so my dear I do hope you will get some help soon. God Bless you all. 
csjoy1
I am glad to find I'm not the only one on here without the "perfect child". My son has been in his share of trouble including a severe drug addiction. I know they have many charter schools or alternative schools for children who are expelled. I would around to see what are your options. I suppose it depends on the reason, in my city if a kid is expelled for drugs they are expelled from every school in the state. My son is currently attending school and actually keeping good grades so I haven't faced your dilema. I hope everything turns out for your family!! Welcome to the group!!!
I live in the state of texas and here they have to educate a child till the age of 18 w/o disability and 21 w disability. Check into alternative schools in your district. It seems funny that the district is jumping straight to explusion. Here they do the alternative schools first. Use the thirty days to really look into your rights and your sons rights. Keep us posted how it goes.
Interesting to see the variety in the responses to this post. Just goes to show that we ALL have different opinions and that there may possibly be not one of us with the "perfect" child (speaking from gruesome experience, unfortunately, with my now 19-year old daughter)!!
I have to say that I agree with Annie and am a little concerned about the "teenagers will be teeangers" comment. I mean -- what did he do? You didn't share that with us. Personally, I am not quite sure what to say and/or offer as advice without knowing the reason for the expulsion ....
What time does your teen go to sleep at night?
- Shauna6
on Feb. 16, 2010 at 7:31 PM