For a few hours? Do you think it's ever ok for them to be alone over night? At what age?
We started leaving them alone around 12. It started with a few hours, and then more and more over time. They haven't given us a reason not to trust them. I hope it does not come to that.
I started around 12 but it also depends on matuity levels of each kid. i have one that i dont think was mature enough at 12 so he always had an older bro looking out for him. My other ones no problem. but no over night without an adult. to many variables of age, areas, and reasoning.
Depends on maturity level of individual child. I left mine, home alone, beginning at ages 9. I didn't stay gone long and called frequently. I've left them alone, overnight, when they were 12. Legally, the age is 12.
I can't foresee leaving my 15 y/o home alone over night for quite a long time. I remember my sisters having parties when my parents would go somewhere for the night. I think once a child is around 12 (depending on maturity), they can be left for a few hours. My 12 y/o daughter will stay home with the younger kids for an hour or two if needed, but only during daylight hours. She gets scared when it's dark.
Daytime hours my then 8 & 11yr old boys would stay for a couple hours alone while I went grocery shopping. I had a cell phone in case they needed me.
However the question of over night is more complicated. Yes, as teen they might be tempted to have frnds over. But also young people are very sound sleepers. In the event of a fire or other household emergency would they be awake or even clear headed enough to handle a situation that would arise?
5th grade was when I started leaving them alone for an hour or so and gradually added more time. When my oldest was in 6th grade she was my babysitter for our youngest and at that time she was in 3rd grade.
Over night I didn't do it until I had to and I left my oldest when she was 18 and out of HS. 3 times she has proved to me she can't play by our rules when left alone for days at a time though. I know neighbors that have left kids in HS alone for over night or longer. I never would.
I have left my 11 yo home alone for maybe an hour to run to the store, I've left him and his 15yo brother home for maybe 3 hrs. I had to leave my 11,15DS and my 17dd home for 3days 2 nights because we went to my 20yo Army basic training graduation but my oldest son (21) slept at the house. And I called every couple of hours to make sure every thing was ok I also had neighbors watching the house.
Twelvish for the first question. Yes, its ok for some kids to stay home overnight. My boys, 16 and 18, have stayed home overnight for a night or two.
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