Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)

Have I created a son with no social skills?

Posted by on Jul. 12, 2010 at 2:06 PM
  • 20 Replies

I think my questions says it all.  My 15 year old son doesn't let loose to easy.  He likes to spend his time at home.  The only time he likes to do anything or go anywhere is when he's with his cousin.   I've asked him about joining sports or anything other type of club, not interested. Or when we go somewhere, all the other kids sit around and talk and have fun and he's kind of the loner.  Please let me know, if he'll out grow this or are there any ideas that might work to get him a little more sociable.

Thanks for any and all advice!!

~Damaris

 

by on Jul. 12, 2010 at 2:06 PM
Add your quick reply below:
You must be a member to reply to this post.
Replies (1-10):
Angiebooboo
by on Jul. 12, 2010 at 2:13 PM

Kick him out side, My kids are outside everyday and all day, and since my son can walk again (with a limp) I can't keep him home.

MrsDavid
by on Jul. 12, 2010 at 2:15 PM

I have a 15 year old boy at home too.  Oh....dear....G-d is all I say every single day!

He has NO friends.  None.  I wish I could help, and am anxious to see what others have to say.

Pherlyce
by on Jul. 12, 2010 at 2:22 PM

 There are kids like that, just let him hang out with his cousin more often, and maybe he is just careful to choose people to hang out. I have 2 brother's that almost the same as your son, they like to stay home and only mingled to the people they knew mostly relatives, but now one of them is working as a accounting consultant who constantly dealing with clients and the other one is a Pastor who also deals with people all the time, just give him time to mature, he will be fine.........  :))

sixeyes
by on Jul. 12, 2010 at 2:30 PM

Mine should meet yours...they don't want to go anywhere either, but at least they can be "alone together" and see if anything pops!!  sorry I was of no assistance .

3Junebabies
by Nina on Jul. 12, 2010 at 2:37 PM

sometimes you have to force them to join a club, sport, or activity.  My daughter is involved in cheerleading, softball, swimming, and water polo.  She said she didn't want to do any of them, now she enjoys every minute.  If we would have let her have her way she would be home sitting doing nothing.

momofne
by on Jul. 12, 2010 at 2:41 PM

Bump!!!!!

toastmama
by on Jul. 12, 2010 at 2:47 PM

My daughter liked to hang out at home too - until she started driving, her social life has really taken off since then.  Maybe its just the age and he'll grow out of it.

Momof5Teens67
by on Jul. 12, 2010 at 6:17 PM

 For some kids they may be just more of a introverted personality and that is Normal for them and they are happy. MAKE SURE He is ok if you havent asked him about it yet.

BUT for SOME KIDS (Not all) it can be a bigger issue. For my oldest daughter, she would CRY about being soooo painfully shy, it bothered her and she was NOT happy that way, I had her checked by a specialist and she had severe social anxiety and needed only a SMALL dose of a antidepressant/anti anxiety medication and now she is very happy and conversational and has a full time job she loves and is planning to start college in the fall. : )

taradawn24
by on Jul. 12, 2010 at 6:22 PM

Does he enjoy any certain activities? Maybe get him to join a sport or club where there's other kids that could enjoy the same things as him. Like a reply I saw above said, sometimes you do have to force them. Make him do something for a month or two, and if he hasn't adjusted let him quit. Or talk to his cousin about maybe including him with some of his friends.

.Holly.
by on Jul. 12, 2010 at 6:32 PM

I agree with what Yvonne said below. 

My son happens to be the complete opposite, so I am not sure what advice to give...but I know you'll get some great advice from all these ladies!!

Quoting Momof5Teens67:

 For some kids they may be just more of a introverted personality and that is Normal for them and they are happy. MAKE SURE He is ok if you havent asked him about it yet.



Add your quick reply below:
You must be a member to reply to this post.
Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)