Got some news on Thanksgiving that I never thought I would hear!! Edited* Update*** Update again
My 15 year old son told me that his 16 year old girlfriend is pregnant, they found out last friday and just now told us. Her mom took her to the doctor so her parents knew as well but no one told us. We are going over to the girls house next weekend so that we can all sit down and talk about what is going to happen now. My son said that she wants to keep the baby, so I guess we will see what happens when we all get together. I am at a loss and do not know what to do, I don't know if I can be happy about this ever, I know I will once I see the baby but right now I am just really sad. I wanted sooo much more for my son and I know they wanted more for their daughter , I am just angry that they did not use protection and now we have a baby coming. I told my son after the first of the year he will be getting a part time job to help pay for things the baby will need, I also told him this means no band trip on spring break and no band lettersman jacket as that money will now have to go for the baby. I am hoping that was the right thing to do. If you have any advice I would really appreciate it.
Edit* I have not read through all the replies yet, but I will. I just want to thank you all for the support and advice I really need it right now. As for the ones that say they can't believe I let my 15 year old have sex, I was not sitting in the room with them while this happened. They were supposed to be at the movies with a group of friends, obviously they left and went some where else if I had known that I would have stopped it from happening. I will update again after we meet with her parents.
Update**** We had our meeting last night and did not get home until after 11pm. I feel a lot better after talking to them and knowing for sure that all the parents are on the same page on everything. We all agree that my son and their daughter will finish school and both go on to College, thank goodness her high school has a daycare in it that she will work in for 1 hour a day so that the baby can stay there. My son is going to pay half of all the medical costs for doctor appointments and the delivery and she will pay for the other half, which holds them both responsible for their child. The total amount for the pregnancy after the insurance pays is $953.85. We also agree that they still need to be kids some what and have time with their friends, and each other which is important for them to stay sane IMO. My husband and I decided not to ask for a DNA test right now we still have along time till the baby is here and will decide what to do about that when it gets closer to time. My son told us that he has no doubts that the baby is his because they were both virgins when they had sex, and does not want a DNA test done, but we will see. We also started talking about the baby coming to our house several nights a week once the baby is about 6 months old, before that we will play it by ear and see what happens. My son got his work permit from school today so now he will begin filling out applications, the only place I have found so far that hires under the age of 16 is McDonalds, but at least it would be a job, to start off with. That is about all, I just feel very relieved and am no longer angry, I think I am now starting to accept it. Thank you all for the advice, words of encouragement and prayers I really appreciate them all
Update again***** We heard the babies heart beat today and it was the most beautiful sound I have heard since I had my own kids. They will be doing an ultrasound on Tuesday to find out exactly how far along she is.