My daughter (15) got a "D" on her report card and since she really doesn't do anything else I told her she couldn't go to my mom's this weekend. My mom was going to take her and a friend to the mall. So now she's in her room crying. I told her she was going to start doing tutoring for this class too. She said, as she always does, that the teacher doesn't teach, that it's not her fault it's the teachers. I said I never see her bring a book home, she said they're not aloud. Which is something that she says too, this must be some new thing, when I was a kid we brought books home and studied. I don't really get how your supposed to study w/out a book. Anyway, she said she's not doing tutoring and basically hates me now. She doesn't get in trouble for anything, she's a good kid. I know she could be doing a lot better in the grades department if she'd just apply herself but she doesn't!!!! Does anyone have any advice for me!! I feel like a major jerk but at some point she has to stop putting the blame on everyone around her and deal with things! Right!?
It's entirely possible theyy can't bring books home. Email the teacher, and find out wha the issue is. Is it homework is it tests or what. What subject is it in? And find out about the tutoring? Is it with the teacher? Is it the teacher that is hard to understand? Is it other students? Can you get her a private tutor?
I know my older 3 kids who are all in High School, have to share certain books with other students, b/c the school cannot afford to buy enough books for "EVERY" child to have their own book. SOOOO---when they need a book to study from, they have to wait til the end of the day, check the book out, bring it home and return it the next day. Its CRAZY, I KNOW, but its not unheard of. Definately get your daughter into tutoring. I would say if she tries to 'refuse' to be tutored, then she needs tough love. That means taking away computer time, TV, telephone/cell phone, no friends over/no going over to friends house, etc. I KNOW it sounds really mean, but you gotta do what ya gotta do!!! GOOD LUCK!!!
Quoting Not_A_Native:It's entirely possible theyy can't bring books home. Email the teacher, and find out wha the issue is. Is it homework is it tests or what. What subject is it in? And find out about the tutoring? Is it with the teacher? Is it the teacher that is hard to understand? Is it other students? Can you get her a private tutor?
We can't afford private tutoring. And in her defense everyone does say this teacher is a bad teacher! I don't think the after school tutoring is with this teacher so that'll be good. I'm calling the school tomorrow to see what I can do.
Quoting Allebas:I know my older 3 kids who are all in High School, have to share certain books with other students, b/c the school cannot afford to buy enough books for "EVERY" child to have their own book. SOOOO---when they need a book to study from, they have to wait til the end of the day, check the book out, bring it home and return it the next day. Its CRAZY, I KNOW, but its not unheard of. Definately get your daughter into tutoring. I would say if she tries to 'refuse' to be tutored, then she needs tough love. That means taking away computer time, TV, telephone/cell phone, no friends over/no going over to friends house, etc. I KNOW it sounds really mean, but you gotta do what ya gotta do!!! GOOD LUCK!!!
Yeah, I know her school doesn't have enough books, it's just so strange to me, LOL!!
Quoting rkoloms:Have you had her evaluated for a learning disability?
NO but I've often wondered. She's super smart, and up until 9th grade was making good grades. I always said if you'd just study and apply yourself you'd be a straight A student but she could of cared less. She's nothing like me, I did horrible all through school, my mom should of had me tested for a learning disability. That may be something I need to do. Thanks
Quoting tyfry7496:
I would never punish by taking time away from a grandparent. That's just mean. I'd find a different punishment.
My mom agreed 100% about this. My mom was taking her to the mall with her friend. It wasn't like they were just spending time alone together. She's with her almost every weekend and it's the only place my daughter goes.
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on Jan. 12, 2012 at 7:12 PM