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17 year old tells me how it's gonna be

Posted by on Jan. 15, 2012 at 6:08 PM
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Hi

I am posting this to see if anyone has any idea what I should do.

My son said that in March he will turn 18 so he can decide where he is going and when he will come back.   He also does not head me telling him not to go, that I need him to stay home today and help around the house.   He does a couple of chores and runs out and is gone.  On the weekends he will spend the night at anyone he chooses home and come home at a time he feels is okay with him.  This is against what I have told him.  No stay home you need to stay home.  Or "come home now" after he stays at a friends.  Do I call the police what is the best way to show him that I have authority over him? 

I just decided to sanction him by locking him out of his bedroom and not giving him access to his belongings.  Sure he has clothes in the hall way that need to be washed which he said he will do tomarrow and or the next day but that is it.

by on Jan. 15, 2012 at 6:08 PM
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jcm62497
by on Jan. 15, 2012 at 6:16 PM
First of all he is not 18 yet. Secondly, if he is living under your roof then he should follow your rules. I do agree that at 18 he is entitled to a little more freedom, but what he is demanding would not fly in my house. I don't know if locking him out of his bedroom is the cure for this. I think he needs "YOU" to tell him how it's gonna be. I guess he can get a job and an apartment and buy his own food and pay his own bills. Good luck ! Sounds like your going to need it.
MrsBLB
by on Jan. 15, 2012 at 6:16 PM
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You gotta make him listen now momma.  Your house your rules, regardless of age with that attitude.  He is not showing you maturity or respect.  Nip it in the bud now.  Call the cops if you need to, he needs to learn you mean business.  Keep us updated.

katie33612
by on Jan. 15, 2012 at 6:18 PM

Thanks, he does not have a job and he is not looking for a job. 

MrsBLB
by on Jan. 15, 2012 at 6:22 PM

Stop paying for his stuff.  He's gotta get a clue in a hurry.

Quoting katie33612:

Thanks, he does not have a job and he is not looking for a job. 


lucky2Beeme
by Gold Member on Jan. 15, 2012 at 6:43 PM
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Quoting katie33612:

Thanks, he does not have a job and he is not looking for a job. 

     WHY ? cold day in hell when my 17 yr old would be running my home. Youdon't like my rules ? theres the door. Stop doing for him and on his 18th birthday escort him out of YOUR home.

Surround yourself with people that add to your life not subtract from it.

HopesNDreams
by on Jan. 15, 2012 at 6:52 PM
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The homeowner can make the rules for all individuals at that address, adult or child. If your son does not like that, he needs to get himself a house or apartment where he can be the one in charge.
starlight1968
by on Jan. 15, 2012 at 9:20 PM
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 ok, when he leaves LOCK every lock so he can't get back in...tell him YOUR name is on the mortgage NOT his and he will do what YOU want or he can find someplace else to live.  You have to be tough and take it if he leaves... our oldest did and learned it wasn't the greatest being out there on her own...she learned fast to obey OUR rules if she wanted to be at home.  Also, we told her no school (college) then she had to work and pay us rent when she turned 18 as her free ride was then over.

atlmom2
by Susie on Jan. 15, 2012 at 9:26 PM
This!


Quoting lucky2Beeme:


Quoting katie33612:

Thanks, he does not have a job and he is not looking for a job. 

     WHY ? cold day in hell when my 17 yr old would be running my home. Youdon't like my rules ? theres the door. Stop doing for him and on his 18th birthday escort him out of YOUR home.


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boys2men2soon
by Kimberly on Jan. 15, 2012 at 9:48 PM

Your house, your rules.   You need to tell him Exactly how it is!  When he turns 18, he is free to leave...permanently.  Until then, he follows your rules or he loses all priveledges that come with your home.  Computer, TV, cell phone, car, money....anything you provide.   Clear out his room, leave his bed and his clothing. 

fantasticfour
by Grumpy on Jan. 15, 2012 at 10:18 PM

I would let him know, if he's can't live by your rules then he needs to find a new place to live.  Being 18 isn't a magical number.  I would also explain the heart breaking reaction when you have no idea if he is alive or dead when you find his bed empty or when he can't be found.

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