I'm the mother of a one year old. I dont have teenagers, and I wont pretend like I know too much about that. I came to this group because it has something to do with teenagers... didnt know where to put it.
I have heard, in big families with older children, people say, "I cant buy you a car! Pfft! There are 4 other (or 5, or 6) other people. If I buy YOU a car, I have to buy EVERYONE a car..."
What kind of shit is that?? YOU had those children, so YOU need to provide whatever they deserve. If you had only had 1 or 2, you would do it, but since you like f*cking you had a million and cant afford to treat your well bahaved teen with something that might benefit you all.
Is that unfair, or did I just come from a small family and I dont get it?
EDIT: You know, a couple of posters have brought to my attention that my language and the way I expressed my question, may have been offensive. If you have read this post, and consider it offensive, I apologize. It's just the way I talk. I try and walk a fine line between expressing myself in the way I want, ad getting people to hear my ideas.
Also, it could be a car, or a bike, or a rubber ducky. FROM MY EXPERIENCE AND WHAT I HAVE PERSONALLY WITNESSED, some parents of multiple children say that as an explination for why they dont want to buy something, or cant. I think it just SOUNDS unfair. Children dont need everything they want. But if your child has a specific request of something they seem to earn by their behavior, why not give it a shot, and not blame their siblings?