I'm seeing various posts on this and that, and it just makes me wonder. (I would have done a poll, but not sure how on here).
A. 17 year old kid having sex with long term (over 6 months) boyfriend/girlfriend.
B. 18 year old kid getting married.
C. 24 year old kid? still living at home.
Definitely B. In this day and age, it's hard for me to understand anyone wanting to get married at 18. Yes, I realize that it was perfectly normal in years past - my husband's parents, who would be well into their 80's if they were still alive today, got married when he was 16 or 17, and she was 15. I would not approve at all either of my kids wanted to get married at 18 though. 18 year olds might legally be adults, but at that age, most are still figuring out who they are as a person, and aren't emotionally ready for marriage.
As for A and C... For A., if my daughter was in a stable relationship, with a boy who genuinely cares for her, and she was on birth control, and he was using condoms, no, I would not freak about out her having sex..
And for C., I certainly don't plan on being one of those parents who lets their kids live at home forever. I moved out of my parents' house at 21, and never moved back in (and yes, I feel old for even waiting that long).
But, I can see where an unmarried 24 year old might need to move back home temporarily in the event of a job loss, etc. I would allow it only it was absolutely necessary, and if would only be temporary. I hate to see 20 something year old "kids" with college degrees and good paying jobs living at home with their parents because they'd rather spend their money on going out with friends, new clothes, etc., rather than on bills.
All 3 really. Can't decide on just one as I am against all 3.
24 year old needs to be on her own if she has a baby and should be on her own regardless.
18 year old getting married, totally wrong.
17 yo having sex. I am against any sex in HS and luckily, my girls had no desire.
B- a few more years won't hurt and will give them more time to grow into themselves, get resonably stable and if they are meant to last a few years won't make a difference. I was married at 18 and will be married 21 years in a few months. I know how hard it was and hope my children will not follow in my footsteps.
While I want my kids to wait "a" isn't the end of the world, especially if in a long term loving relationship.
As for "c" why are they still living at home? I mean if are being lazy asses waiting for everything to be handed to them then I would have already booted them out. If they came back after college or found themselves in a situation where they lost their jobs or something that would be completely different to me.
PS the new average of a child moving out FOR GOOD is 27 - and for me that is fine.... if my kids need a few extra years at home to finish school and get their finances in order to actually successfully move out I am down with that!!!!! Would rather be a help to my kids than see them struggle. I know I didn't sign on for only 18 years... I signed on for life!!!
Quoting luv2nap:PS the new average of a child moving out FOR GOOD is 27 - and for me that is fine.... if my kids need a few extra years at home to finish school and get their finances in order to actually successfully move out I am down with that!!!!! Would rather be a help to my kids than see them struggle. I know I didn't sign on for only 18 years... I signed on for life!!!
I agree with you as long as they are working and saving. If they are mooching, hell no. IF they are working and spending all their money, hell no as well.
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i agree 100%
Quoting atlmom2:
Quoting luv2nap:PS the new average of a child moving out FOR GOOD is 27 - and for me that is fine.... if my kids need a few extra years at home to finish school and get their finances in order to actually successfully move out I am down with that!!!!! Would rather be a help to my kids than see them struggle. I know I didn't sign on for only 18 years... I signed on for life!!!
I agree with you as long as they are working and saving. If they are mooching, hell no. IF they are working and spending all their money, hell no as well.
Luv2nap ~ "I'm just say'n" 
"Bitch..... I don't know your life!"
That being said.......I know that my 17yo is having sex w/ his gf of over a year. I don't like it but there is nothing I can do to stop it he lives w/ his dad. All I can do is hope that he is safe. We have stressed this to him repeatedly and he knows very will what babies are like since he has been around my youngest 3 (4yo & 2yo twins). He has said that he doesn't want kids so I hope he remembers where they come from.
As far as c goes, it depends on the situation.
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I'm ready to pull the earbuds out of his ears and put them somewhere less comfortable.
- Not_A_Native
on Feb. 9, 2012 at 11:24 AM