Anyone else out there dealing with a teenage who thinks that drugs are "No big deal" and think that pot is fine because "It's going to be legal some day/"
Ugh. This war on drugs is driving me crazy.
NO Tell your teen when its legal feel free to smoke up ! Until then as long as they reside in your home and they are not out on their own NO DRUGS !
No I don't have that problem. All of the kids know that I have never done a harsher drug than cigarette (except by the doctor) and that their dad used to do anything that didn't require a needle. We've sat them down and I've told them, I have no regrets at all. Never missed it at all. Dad tells them all the regrets he had because he did drugs. They know they aren't missing anything by not doing drugs. Hopefully it stays that way.
Nope. I have too much knowledge about drugs and alcohol and freely share it with my son. I have a certifictate in AODA Rehab, and my son has attended some of my classes and been disgusted by what he learned. From caffeine, nicotine to hard core drugs, he knows all that can happen. Educating our kids is a key to prevention. It may not stop all kids, but at least they are educated. My son also knows that if I catch him there will be huge consequences, up to and including rehab. I do NOT mess around with drugs and alcohol.
I never see anyone mention asking their kid why they want it in the first place. What's missing in your life that alcohol or dope will fix?
And what have the dopers accomplished that you want to be like them? (If their daddy happens to be rich, and they have nice clothes, the latest tech and a car, that doesn't count as an accomplishment.)
I suggest approaching them with these questions gently, like a conversation, not an accusation. And you will need real answers, 'everyody does it' isn't an answer. Crap like, 'it's going to be legal anyway' is not an answer. Even if it was legal, it isn't going to be legal for minors.
You didn't say he is smoking pot now, his justification of it leads me to believe he is.
That said, bear in mind, no matter how little he says he's doing it, he's doing it more. I know people who tried pretty much everything, it didn't take, they got financially strained, and had problems with their other kids because one just couldn't keep it together. I fail to see how sacrificing you and the rest of your family makes sense.
For the moms who feel there is nothing they can do, there surely is, it takes guts though. Here's the conversation:
"Okay junior, here's the deal. As long as you pay for it yourself, get as drunk as you want, as stoned as you want. You aren't driving any of our cars, I can't afford the liability. Since you're determined to be an addict in training, I can't give you any money. If you get caught, busted, I'm not bailing you out of jail, I'm not sending you to rehab. You get tagged with a misdemeanor or felony, tough. The way it works is simple. You don't give a damn about your family, and worse, you don't give a damn about yourself. So we will let you hang out to dry, hotshot. If I catch you doing drugs anywhere, I will turn you in myself, guaranteed."
You won't be 'saving' him, you can't save him without his help anyway, you will be saving yourself and your other children. Then lock up your jewelry, your purse and wallet, he will steal your stuff. If you have pills, lock them up too, he will take them. Don't give him car keys, don't leave yours lying around, he will get up in the middle of the night and drive around looking for dope. For an addict, there's nothing but the habit, you, your other kids, your stuff is a means to an end only. He will tell you any lie necessary, they are always going to get straight, they are always sorry, they will grovel, cry, whine about 'trust' (I love that one) yell and threaten.
Sorry, wish I had better news.
Fighting this battle now as we speak!
Found out he does it occassionaly and wants us to say it is okay if his grades stay up,etc. We don't agree at all. Also pulls the "it should be legal, drinking is worse" States there is no harmful affects and it is not addicting if you do it once a month.
I don't/didnt have any of those problems , however my kids say those things about Pot being no big deal, and soon to be legalized. Scary scary. When my kids were in middle school I bought "p" drug/alcohol tests. They knew at anytime i could/would test them any time I had a suspicion. Worked like a charm! never had a problem! 22,18, and 15. They told their friends, and their friends were like your mom's nut and my kids would reply no she is smart! I have great respectful kids. Never used the test except I tried the alcohol one to see if it worked. It sure did. Cant try the drug one, I dont do drugs.
Welcome to my Nightmare! Not only does my son think that Weed should and will be legalized....he has every intention of applying for a medicinal marijuana card in the future. He absolutely refuses to take any prescription meds for his IBS, insomnia, or anxiety. He insists he trusts natural remedies; ie marijuana, more than man made pharmaceuticals. He has done tons of research, knows all the risks, and deems them better than the alternatives. UGH.
To make matters worse, we live in a State where medicinal marijuana is almost the norm. I am out of ideas. He is 18, and no longer living at home. It is hard to convince him that it is not worth it, as he has an answer to everything!
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I'm ready to pull the earbuds out of his ears and put them somewhere less comfortable.
- majormomma1
on Feb. 11, 2012 at 8:15 AM