Help! My daughter is dating! Don't know what to do!

[Lala5441]

Ok, My daughter has a date tonight , she is 15 yrs old but act a lot older than she is, her boyfriend is 18 and act alot younger but he is a good kid that likes to help all of his friends.  the problem is they are going out with their other friends age 17 and 18.  My daughter boyfriend parents are going out of town today meaning there is going to be a empty house.  The boys are taking them to a nice dinner and my dd boyfriend said after dinner he is dropping the other two off and he is coming back to our house and I believe him, but I think he is dropping the friends off at his house so they can be alone.  I don't know if I should say something or just keep my mouth shout because it's not my house or children.  Help Please!

[lucky2Beeme]

Sit down with your DD and talk about TRUST.  Explain that you are nervous and that this is new territory for both of you. The fact she told you his parents are going away leads me to believe she is not planning on going there.

[fantasticfour]

Wow I don't know what to tell you because at 15 my daughter wouldn't be dating an 18 year old.  Now I know that you know this kid and I don't so don't take offense :)  At 15 she wouldn't be going on a "real" date anyways.  I'd have to drive them.

[LoveLiz]

 Not my daughter. LOL. She is trying to get me to let her date a 16 year old and I am saying no right now. LOL. She is 14 BTW

[Lala5441]

She didn't tell me her boyfriend did but she was standing there if that counts.  These are two real good kids and I am not worried about them it's the friends

[Lala5441]

And about the age it depends on the child, everyone is different. 

[luckysevenwow]

I wouldnt aloow her to date someone that old, but tjat really isnt your question. The other kids are not your problem. They are old enough and their parents should be the ones checking on where they are at. So lomg as your DD and her date do what they say theybare doing i would let it go.

[starlight1968]

 I agree with the above, unless you know the parents of the kiddos I wouldn't worry about it.  As long as you know what your dd is doing/going.

We have a rule..no dating till 16, regardless of how mature our dd's are.  I don't think anyone is really ready for dating till they are 16-18 yo. Body, mind etc...  Both our dd's are very smart, mature girls but they also understand/know the rule so if they live by it that shows us maturity too and then when they turn 16 we are ok with the dating.

[nishiko]

I like most of the moms replies, how 15 to 18 translates into a problem is a mystery to me. If a 30 year old man dates a 27 year old woman, nobody gets into a snit.
In a weird way, it's almost better that he's 18. Sex with her at 15 may be statutory rape in your state, if so, she cannot 'consent.' But you didn't say you were concerned about her having sex, so that's only a side comment.
She has been forthright in explaining what's going on, that ought to count for something. She sounds like a really good kid, give her a big hug and tell her she's the absolute very most important thing in your life. My daughter gets the most precious grin on her face when I say stuff like that, even when she rolls her eyes and says, "Oh, please mom."

[momgotchat]

Well hopefully you communicate with your dd's boyfriend's parents so your all on the same page.  However, I think 15 and 18, huh uh.  But that's your choice as a parent.

You say the 18 year old is not mature, but that doesn't mean you know what his intentions are.  I think there are factors to consider though: How well do you know this boy, how long have they been dating, do you know his parents, how do the feel about the age difference, what do you know about his parents as far as raising their kids; a lot of things to consider here.

[Not_A_Native]

The other two are 17 and 18 and not your kids.  I'd stay out of that one.