Did my DD learn a lesson from picking up trash outside at 5:30am?

[momgotchat]

One of my 14 yr old daughters shared responsibilities is taking out the trash.  I noticed last Thursday that she tossed it out my front door off to the side.  I asked her if she got it into the trash can, and she tells me the can is still out by the roadside (from yesterdays trash PU).  I told her to go get it, and her teen defiance kicks in and she tells me "no, I don't want to".  I told her "fine, when the raccoons or the neighbor cat gets in it, and they will, you're picking it up".  She says "OK".

The next day, another bag added, I gave her a reminder, she said: "ok, I'll get it in a minute".  She never got it.  3rd day, and a third bag.  Now my voice is escalating "Go get the trash can and put the trash in it now!"  Her voice escalates back "OK, I WILL IN A MINUTE".

I told her once again.  "Like I told you before "when" the raccoons and cat's strings it all over in the driveway, you are the one that's going to clean it up". "OK!" was her reply (as she goes back to texting). weekend goes, more trash.

So I wake up Monday morning at 5:00am to get ready for work.  Go out to start my car at 5:30am...and LOW and BEHOLD....what do I see?   Yep....ALL OVER the drive way, 5 bags of trash!

So I proceed to her bed, pull the covers off, raise my voice "get up right now, and get out there and pick up all your trash!".   Took her a few moments to arouse and figure out what was going on: "no mom, let me sleep I got school in a couple hours",  "Well you should have thought of that before you refused to do what I told you to do, and you wouldn't be going through this right now."   The commotion woke up her dad, after he realized what was going on he told her to get up.  But what happened next bewildered me.  He gets dressed to go out to help her!  He's a stickler for feeling sorry for her, but I didn't think he would go this far.  I told him not to help her, she caused the issue she can clean it.  He ignored me and proceeded outside a head of her and started cleaning up.  I was PISSED to say the least. 

Then my attention turned back to my daughter as she was taking her sweet time getting dressed, complaining about how "stupid" this was.  I said "ya, it was a pretty stupid thing for you not to listen to me wasn't it".  Next comes the famous "eye roll" as she finely makes it out the door, where her dad has most the trash picked up.

Even though my husband "once again" failed to be on the same page with me, I'm hoping she did get something out of it.

She will be taking the trash out today, please pray for me, lol.

[atlmom2]

I agree with you making her pick it all up.  She will get it in the trash can next time. 

[outtamymynd]

Good for you, I would have thrown a fit about hubby picking it up, she should have had the work load lol.

[PinkieRed]

I don't see anything wrong with what you did. She had several opportunities already to take the trash out properly, but refused to do it. Maybe she'll think twice next time.

[mom2aspclboy]

I don't see anything wrong with what you did & it's too bad your DH didn't follow through with you so that the lesson would really sink in. Hopefully she still learned something from the experience.

And, I have to ask, why do you have so much trash in a week? 

[momgotchat]

Good question about the trash, I ask my kids that everyday "where does it all come from?, lol"  We're a family of 4, so I don't know if 5- 30 gallon bags of trash is normal for a family of 4 in a week or not.  That does include the bathroom and bedroom trash can as well (added to the kitchen trash bag, just before we take it out). That would be an interesting post question, lol.

Quoting mom2aspclboy:

I don't see anything wrong with what you did & it's too bad your DH didn't follow through with you so that the lesson would really sink in. Hopefully she still learned something from the experience.

And, I have to ask, why do you have so much trash in a week? 

[momofne]

No Dad No!!! I hope she learned a little bit from this. Here's a little trash prayer : )

[luckysevenwow]

I think the fact that you woke her up, made her get dressed and go outside (in spite of dad) will have an impact.

My husband probably would have went out also, for that matter I would have helped...just so it would get done, then she would have had to do extra chores to make up for the chore I had/did help her with.

[mom2aspclboy]

It probably would be an interesting post question..lol. We are a family of 3, plus two dogs, and we put out one 13 gallon kitchen trash bag a week, sometimes two, and sometimes we skip a week because there isn't enough to bother putting it out. This includes adding the laundry room & bathroom trash to the kitchen trash, too.

Quoting momgotchat:

Good question about the trash, I ask my kids that everyday "where does it all come from?, lol"  We're a family of 4, so I don't know if 5- 30 gallon bags of trash is normal for a family of 4 in a week or not.  That does include the bathroom and bedroom trash can as well (added to the kitchen trash bag, just before we take it out). That would be an interesting post question, lol.

Quoting mom2aspclboy:

I don't see anything wrong with what you did & it's too bad your DH didn't follow through with you so that the lesson would really sink in. Hopefully she still learned something from the experience.

And, I have to ask, why do you have so much trash in a week? 

[momgotchat]

LOL, thank you!

Quoting momofne:

No Dad No!!! I hope she learned a little bit from this. Here's a little trash prayer : )

[fammatthews4]

That's about how much we have a week as well for 4 of us, but we have a trash compactor and we recycle. With out doing those things we would have much more in a week.

Quoting mom2aspclboy:

It probably would be an interesting post question..lol. We are a family of 3, plus two dogs, and we put out one 13 gallon kitchen trash bag a week, sometimes two, and sometimes we skip a week because there isn't enough to bother putting it out. This includes adding the laundry room & bathroom trash to the kitchen trash, too.

Quoting momgotchat:

Good question about the trash, I ask my kids that everyday "where does it all come from?, lol"  We're a family of 4, so I don't know if 5- 30 gallon bags of trash is normal for a family of 4 in a week or not.  That does include the bathroom and bedroom trash can as well (added to the kitchen trash bag, just before we take it out). That would be an interesting post question, lol.

Quoting mom2aspclboy:

I don't see anything wrong with what you did & it's too bad your DH didn't follow through with you so that the lesson would really sink in. Hopefully she still learned something from the experience.

And, I have to ask, why do you have so much trash in a week?