Visitation of children of divorced/seperated parents

[fantasticfour]

I know that no one likes to think about getting a divorce but it does happen.  A lot.  Alot of times when a couple divorces or seperates, it is common that one has to start all over (the other one got the house and furniture).  Usually the one who starts over is the noncustodial parent.

So my question is this.  What are your bare minimum requirements for your child to have every other weekend visitation at the other parents?

If other, please specify.

[starlight1968]

 before we got custody of my stepdaughter, we had a room just for her.

[KeriAZ]

When my kids use to visit their idiot father they had one room to share. But one usually slept on the couch

[bizzeemom2717]

Ideally of course room to themselves, but sharing with same sex sibling would be fine too.

[rkoloms]

I believe this would be established in mediation?

[fantasticfour]

Actually I learned what mediation is.  Mediation cannot determine anything, only a judge can.  In mediation if the parents agree then the mediator is permitted to inform the judge that they agreed on something and the judge can rule on that.  However if one parent wants the child to have a room and the other parent wants the child to sleep on the couch, mediation can't do anything about it.

Quoting rkoloms:

I believe this would be established in mediation?

[boys2men2soon]

I think it depends on the age of the children.   In our State the rule of thumb is each child must have a bed.

My step kids used to spend weekends with us.    Our son, of course, lived with us.   We had bunkbeds in his room for him and stepson.   Step daughter had the other room to herself and her brother (step son) preferred to sleep in her room.   Later, when we had another baby, her room turned into a nursery, we put a sofa bed in the living room and a futon in the family room.   She had her choice of where to sleep. (Both step kids were teens by that time).

[momofne]

Thats correct. If the parents can not agree then it is up to the court. Most times you will keep going through medation (and money) until there is some sort of agreement.

Quoting fantasticfour:

Actually I learned what mediation is.  Mediation cannot determine anything, only a judge can.  In mediation if the parents agree then the mediator is permitted to inform the judge that they agreed on something and the judge can rule on that.  However if one parent wants the child to have a room and the other parent wants the child to sleep on the couch, mediation can't do anything about it.

Quoting rkoloms:

I believe this would be established in mediation?

[momofne]

Both my boys shared a king sized bed during our seperation and then as they got older the oldest started taking the couch or sometimes my ex would.

[02nana07]

 I don't think a parent should be expected to have a room for a child who visits  every other weekend that would be a waste of space that most people couldn't afford. 

I don't see a problem sharing a room with a same sex child as long as they get along.

If they don't then give one child the room and the other the couch, maybe alternate weekends where the visiting child gets the couch one weekend and the child that lives there gets it the next visit.

I know when a child has a friend spend the night they don't get their own room so why should a child who is visiting their parent because they should be to busy to spend much time in there anyway. 

[JC2223]

 I think each state has it's own rules for sleeping accommodations for children based on age. When we first moved, my SD's slept on the pull out couch until we got our house. Then we had a room for them with their own beds.