Hi I need help

[gina923352]

I'm having trouble with my girls one cries too much she is 7 one tried to boss everyone around n yells at me like she is grown n hit ppl she is 9 n the oldest will sit there n throw dirty looks idk wat to do I have tried everything I take things from them n put them on time out n nth works help

[MomofJJS]

When nothing else was working I made a consequence jar. I placed in there age approiate consequences (i.e. wash dishes for a week, no phone for 3 days, clean cat litter box for a week)  my dd is 17.  What I found that took the stress off me!  Hope this helps someone!

[MOMMAR234]

First make sure they are not misbehaving to get your attention. If you think they may be trying to get your attention try spending quality time with them and explain to them that it is much easier to have time together if they are behaving. If this is not the problem make sure that you FOLLOW THROUGH
with whatever method of discipline you use. If they realize they can wear you down and get their way it will continue. This will be very hard in the beginning but will get easier when they realize they will not get their way.

[bizzeemom2717]

I would take away privileges when they act disrespectful to you like that.

[PurpleHazey]

Don't listen to her, just go about with what you are doing she will get the hint!

[PurpleHazey]

Quoting bizzeemom2717:

I would take away privileges when they act disrespectful to you like that.

Absolutely!  She is still really young and the next time she asked for something just remind her that that you don't buy things for a little girl that talks to you like that.

[gina923352]

Thank u all so much I will use wat I c here n c wat happens I apprewciate ur help

[tnmommy5]

Bump

[Mom2GM]

What ever punishment you decide STICK with it!!!!!!!! that was my mistake and I have an 18 years old daughter that is ungrateful and demanding. 

[AvonSuperMommy]

While I'm not sure about the dirty looks, here is a nice article from Love & Logic that could be worth a try... use the Energy Drain!

The "Energy Drain" approach was created to give adults a practical way of creating logical consequences that teach responsibility. Simply stated, the child (or teen) is required to replace energy "drained" from the adult by their misbehavior.

Step 1: Deliver a strong dose of sincere empathy.
This is so sad.

Step 2: Notify the youngster that their misbehavior drained your energy.
Oh sweetie. When you lie to me (or almost any other misbehavior) , it drains energy right out of me.

Step 3: Ask how he or she plans to replace the energy.
How are you planning to put that energy back?

Step 4: If you hear, "I don't know," offer some payback options.
Some kids decide to do some of their mom's chores? How would that work? Some kids decide to hire and pay for a babysitter-so their parents can go out and relax. How would that work?

Step 5: If the child completes the chores, thank them and don't lecture
Thanks so much! I really appreciate it.

Step 6: If the child refuses or forgets, don't warn or remind.
Remember: ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS!

Step 7: As a last resort, go on strike OR sell a toy to pay for the drain.
What a bummer. I just don't think I have the energy to take you to Silly Willie's Fun Park this weekend.

OR…

What a bummer. You forgot to do those chores. No problem. I sold your Mutant Death Squad action figure to pay for a babysitter tonight.

 

This could help your girls understand that excessive crying and being disrespectful to adults makes you exhausted and that's not very nice! After they make it up to you be sure and give out lots of love!

[gina923352]

Hmmm that sounds good to me I will try that thank u so much I need to try sum thing new...