What advice to give to my 14 yo son about self-pleasuring?

[Ella925]

My son is 14, going through regular boy stuff. He is an excellent child but I don't know what to tell him about waking up with a boner, do I buy him lotion, tell him yo take a cold shower. I understand it is something he has no control of but what advice do I give?

[PinkieRed]

Has he brought it up to you? I imagine he'll figure out on his own how to handle it, if he hasn't already.

[gotnothinonme]

I might just leave that topic alone a bit longer, unless he seems distressed about it.

[annie2244]

His waking up with a boner leads you to think you need to give him self-pleasuring advice?

It should only take a couple minutes to go back down, and he doesn't need to masturbate to get that to happen.

I don't see how you need to address this with him unless he seems uncomfortable about the whole thing or asks you questions.

[luckysevenwow]

This was my thought also..

Quoting annie2244:

His waking up with a boner leads you to think you need to give him self-pleasuring advice?

It should only take a couple minutes to go back down, and he doesn't need to masturbate to get that to happen.

I don't see how you need to address this with him unless he seems uncomfortable about the whole thing or asks you questions.

[momofne]

It's perfectly normal and there is no need to self pleasure. If he feels he needs to then he can jump in the shower. Is this something that he's brought up to you? If not I wouldn't say anything. it's all perfectly normal.

[boys2men2soon]

Quoting PinkieRed:

Has he brought it up to you? I imagine he'll figure out on his own how to handle it, if he hasn't already.

This was my thought.

[fantasticfour]

My son has never talked to me about this so I don't know what advice to give him.  Is his dad in the picture?  I think any advice coming from you will embarass him.

[HFC1]

At puberty, his body is going to do what it wants to do.  He can masturbate if he has the time and the proper enviroment.  He may seem stressed by this.  You may want to seek a referral from your primary care doctor to social worker dealing with youth or if your doctor is okay with it, have him or her speak to your son.

[werlaxn]

I have 2  boys. No advice is needed,he will figure it out on his own. I can tell you right now,boys do NOT want to discuss this with their mother. It's natural.

[atlmom2]

I have girls but I was thinking as some others have said, if he doesn't bring it up to you, I wouldn't to him.  At 14, I am sure its been going on for a while probably.