I saw in another group where people have been harrassing a mom who works and her hubby is a stay at home dad. They call him all sorts of names, such as free loader. He is looking for work but cannot find any right now.
Why is it people are so judgemental when people go outside of tradition? A woman gets pregnant by her boyfriend and they never get married but are together for years (I know a girl like this, been together 19 years never married) and she's somehow short changing her life.
When hubby and I moved into this house, we were not married and my credit wasn't great. I got so much grief because if hubby wanted to throw me out there was nothing I could do because my name wasn't on the house. BTW married now and still don't have my name on the house.
Why is it traditional ways are veiwed as acceptable when alot of times they don't work for that family while untraditional ways are frowned upon even when they do work for the family.
Wow, that is awful. If the man is a freeloader, then they should be saying the same for a woman then.
We have friends where the Dad has been a stay at home Dad for 18 years. Why is that so bad? The Mom had a very good job. Dad happened to lose his either right before or right after the baby was born. After he stayed home a while they decided to just have him stay home permanently. Its really worked well for them.
I believe in marriage but if someone else doesn't, I don't care. I wasn't ever living with anyone before marriage. My girls will probably live with someone before marriage but that is them, not me.
I don't have a problem with stay at home dads. I think it's a shame that someone is being bashed for their decision.
I don't see anything wrong with a man being a stay at home dad, if his wife earns enough to support the family, and he's happy caring for the kids.
My husband and I have gone through several job layoffs over the past few years. Two different times, my husband was laid off, and I was working full time.
I have to say, other than the financial difficulties, it was wonderful having him home. He was able to drop off the kids at school every morning and pick them up the in the afternoons, the house was always clean when I got home from work, and he would have dinner ready or started. He also picked me up from work many evenings, which sure beat my having to take the bus. It was in a lot of ways much easier than when we were both working full time, our son was in after school care until 5:45 every evening, daughter was home by herself for a few hours after school every day, I didn't get home until 6-6:30, and then I had to scramble to help the kids with homework, cook dinner, etc., in the couple of hours before they had to go to bed.
I am currently laid off myself, but I am looking for full time work. My husband doesn't look at me as a freeloader for not working, and I didn't look at him as a freeloader when he was out of work, either. In this day and age, lots of men are stay at home dads. I don't see why anyone would view it as so unusual or wrong.
This bugs me to no end.
I have a friend with a great executive position with a Fortune 50 company. Her husband is he stay at home dad, and has been for close to 20 years. They have 4 kids - heck, he even homeschooled them for awhile! She has NO patience with being home with the kids - went back as soon as she could after having each kid - even had her laptop in the hospital working when she had her last.
If this was a dad going right back to work, no one would have batted an eye. She is the one who is called names, has people say she doesn't care about her kids, and so on. If this was turned around (dad right back to work after a child being born, esecially dad with an important executive position), people would praise him.
And honestly, until no one comments on these types of arrangements, equality is WAY far off.
Quoting atlmom2:
Wow, that is awful. If the man is a freeloader, then they should be saying the same for a woman then.
We have friends where the Dad has been a stay at home Dad for 18 years. Why is that so bad? The Mom had a very good job. Dad happened to lose his either right before or right after the baby was born. After he stayed home a while they decided to just have him stay home permanently. Its really worked well for them.
I believe in marriage but if someone else doesn't, I don't care. I wasn't ever living with anyone before marriage. My girls will probably live with someone before marriage but that is them, not me.
I think more dads should take on a job like being a stay at home mom...it is not an easy job and I think it is great That a man can keep up with being a stay at home dad...good for him.
Exactly. If mom brings home the bacon so to speak and dad takes care of the kids and the house then what is the big deal? To me it's no different then dad bringing home the money and mom taking care of the house and kids.
Quoting momofne:I agree. I mean if the guys sittin around doing nothing thats a different issue.
Quoting mumsy2three:I don't have a problem with stay at home dads. I think it's a shame that someone is being bashed for their decision.
I'm ready to pull the earbuds out of his ears and put them somewhere less comfortable.
- fantasticfour
on Feb. 14, 2012 at 2:43 PM