I'm looking for a broad base of advice, so please answer anyway. My 14-year-old son and 15-year-old daughter like to rough-house from time to time. It's never very rough, but my son will occasionally give his sister hit on pressure points and even hurt her breasts." I know that he doesn't do it with the intent to hurt her; he just thinks he's teasing her. I've lectured him and have taken away privileges, and I've tried to convey to him that a girl's breasts are very sensitive, but he is not yielding...
Fed up, my daughter who has learnt self defence asked me if she can give him a taste of his own medicine (and a lesson in sensitivity). She wants to hit him in the testicles the next time he gives her a bad pain. Since my "nice mom" approach hasn't worked, I told her that I would think about it. I asked my mom first and she told she is very proud of my daughter for her controlled manners and asked me to give the permission to do it with a controlled power and in presence of us. In her own words "girls doing a bit of soccer with boy's balls will learn them to respect girls".My elder sister also supported my daughter's theory. As she being a doctor she csn provide an immediate relief to his pain. May I allow her to hit him (not too hard), and I'm wondering what you think? And what should I say to my son?
Plain and simple answer, NO, two wrongs don't make a right, something I taught my kids from preschool age. Also, not sure what kind of doctor you were talking to, but as an RN I can assure you there is no type of "instant Relief" one can offer a boy who has an injury to his testicles....
Quoting fammatthews4:
In my honest opinion I don't think it's right for a 15 year old and a 14 year old to be rough housing period. I would put a stop to that right away.
I only have boys, but as the youngest girl in my family. Yeah my mom wouldn't us girls do that to our brothers, but I did and afterwards they stopped. As my older brother said we don't see you as a "girl" just our sister. Least your daughter asked first. I just did it!
I think that if he is not listening to you about it then perhaps you should put an end to the rough and tumbles in the house. They are getting a little old for it too. If he continues to do it in a "bully" way then absolutely she should hit him back. I would prefer her to hit him in the diaphram though.
Tell her to go for it. If it teaches him a lesson then so be it. When he comes crying to you about it, tell him if he does tell him paybacks are a Bi*ch
Ummm, they are a bit old to be rough housing, period. Furthermore, I find it kinda funny that your daughter wants your blessing to hurt her brother. Self defense is just that, self defense. I've never heard of someone asking permission to protect themselves.
I would have to say no. I don't think 2 wrongs make a right. Personally I would be sitting down with your son and explain not only is it hurtful to hurt her that way but her breasts are a private area and that she needs to be respected. I would put and end to any more rough housing. They are way to old for it IMO.
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- krithika231
on Feb. 15, 2012 at 12:58 AM