When should you let your teen age daughter date and have a boy come to house.

[sexymom905]

Im not ready for her to date, but she is . She is 17 and im afraid to let her go out alone with a boy. Dont trust them. I dont want anyone to hurt my daughter. She said she can take care of herself. I love her very much. Maybe i need to give in, and let go out. I need to meet the boy first.  what do everyone else have to say.

[fantasticfour]

I understand the meeting the boy, but you do have to let her go out because next year you don't get a say if she chooses to move out! Let go of the leash a little

[boys2men2soon]

Let her Go!!!   Make it clear that the boy needs to come in and meet you.     She will be an adult, soon.  She needs a little experience with social skills (dating) before she goes off to college.

[momofne]

I agree you should meet the boy first and then let her go. I'm sure she will be fine.

[Cara5]

I agree, start teaching her good habits now while you still have some say over who what when and where.  

My daughter has a girlfriend right now, actually, but the rules are the same.  If this girl picks her up for a date she much come inside, plan to stay for 20 or 30 minuets so we can chat, I want to look the both of them in the eye while I hear what their plans are. Curfew is crufew and not a minute past.    

[texasjen]

Mama, she's 17, she's alot brighter than what u are giving her credit for. Keep your lines of communication open with her and she will keep them open with you. She needs some socializing skills, and I'm sure she will be just fine.

[Aimeeo0o21]

maybe when shes 30!

[girlygirl320]

It's not just the boys u have to worry about!!!!!

[EyEmTuRtLe]

1) Have her bring the boy in to meet you

2) Have her take an actual self defense class.

3) Buy her a keychain can of mace

4) Breath!!! You need to give her some breathing space too. Before you really lose her.

 My DS is only 14. We won't allow him to date or have a girlfriend until he's a freshmen in high school (which is next year). And even then we have rules about him dating. WE want to meet the girl and at one point her parents. We made him take a self defense class mixed in with a few MMA classes. 

His school counsellor asked why we had those rules. I nicely remindered her... "Boys can be victims too."

[bizzeemom2717]

(((Hugs.))) It's scary. My SD was same age when she first started dating, my DS was 16 and I don't care if it's sexist was MUCH scarier with my DD! I would def have him come to your home for dinner, get to know him. If your DD has made good decisions in her life up until now, I'm sure he's a good kid. Good luck, there comes a time when we have to have faith we have raised our kids with the best foundation poss and let them fly.

[MamaJAG]

I have no girls, but I was a sheltered girl and I know what I will teach my sons to do.  She needs to go out.  I was never allowed so when I went to college at age 17, I was like a dog off a leash I had been straining at for years.  Let her date a bit while you can still have daily communication with her.  As for meeting the boy, I say absolutely.  We will be teaching our sons that if they are interested in a young lady, they will treat her with respect and talk to her parent/parents before requesting a date.  I want them to be able to demonstrate responsibility and respect.  I want the girl to feel safe, not like a piece of meat.  Like she is with someone who will protect her if needed and think that she is amazing just because she is who she is.  I hope that by requiring them to talk to her parents, it will keep them from going after just any random girl they think is pretty.  So yeah, I think if a boy wants to date your daughter, he should be willing to have an "interview" with you.  Just my opinion.