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My son is a perv. what do I do

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My son is 12, but he acts like he is 9 he has a speech problem and some learning disabilities. He is my youngest, my other sons are 18 and 20. My 12y/o is extremely shy. He will not talk to a girl face to face, but give him a cell phone and will text any nasty crap he can think of. I do believe his friends influence him because they are little pervs also. I found out that when they come over they had been looking at porn. I have it blocked now, ( it was a new computer, I forgot about the porn sites). He had a FB book page and I decided to check that out and he was messaging 13 and 14 year old girls telling them they had nice boobs and he wanted to have sex with them. The girls got upset and told him he was weird and they hated him. I deactivated his FB page.  Then he has got a crush on his brother's friend's sister and was texting her and calling her every day. She would not answer when he called and she wouldn't text him back. She finally texted him and told him to leave her alone and quit bothering her. I have talked to him until I am blue in the face. I told him girls needed to be treated with respect. I have had his brothers talk to him. I thought we were making progress until I got text and it said who is this and how did you get my number and I knew he was at it again. For him to have learning disabilities he covers his tracks by deleting his outgoing text and inbox. He is uses my cell phone because I'm not giving him one because of all the texts. He gets the numbers from his friend. His friend's older brother is sweet and popular and has every girls phone number and he has to share his phone with his brother. I know his friends text inappropiate crap too because I look a their phones when they are here. I told one kids dad and he thought it was funny. I talked to the other kids parents and they told me their son wouldn't do that.  Yes they do I seen their phones. Hell yeah I snoop!

 I'm at my wits end...  I know he wants a gf, but I told him he has to learn to talk to girls. A girl said hey to him at school the other day and his face turned blood red and he stared at the ground and didn't say anything. Any advice? Oh I have already been yelled at by these girls parents and I always apologize because I understand how they feel. 

by on Feb. 18, 2012 at 2:56 PM
Replies (31-40):
dancer
by on Feb. 21, 2012 at 11:16 AM

your son is too young for a girlfriend.

babyrichart2012
by on Feb. 21, 2012 at 4:42 PM

MILITARY SCHOOL ANYONE?

christin_610
by on Feb. 21, 2012 at 4:48 PM
Omg why don't you just step up and ground your kid! Take away the computer and the phone and if his friends are making it worse then ground him from having them come over until he understands you are serious.
PurpleHazey
by on Feb. 21, 2012 at 6:15 PM

Is he mentally challenged, I ask that because it is normal with them and they need to be worked on and taught..but to be honest sometimes they can't be helped if they have mental problems.

PurpleHazey
by on Feb. 21, 2012 at 6:16 PM


Quoting christin_610:

Omg why don't you just step up and ground your kid! Take away the computer and the phone and if his friends are making it worse then ground him from having them come over until he understands you are serious.


I would say that would be the first thing I would do.

PurpleHazey
by on Feb. 21, 2012 at 6:17 PM


Quoting dancer:

your son is too young for a girlfriend.

Yes that too.

PurpleHazey
by on Feb. 21, 2012 at 6:18 PM


Quoting 02nana07:

 If someone doesn't step up and take control  he is going to be in the system soon. 

If it were my daughter he were texting he would be doing some time because if he just keeps doing it he needs serious consequences.

That's what I was thinking.

PurpleHazey
by on Feb. 21, 2012 at 6:20 PM


Quoting lucky2Beeme:

I dont understand why this keeps happening take away the freakin phone !Take him for a ride to the police station let them tell him what is going to happen if this shit continues ! Damn momma step up before your kids end up in Juvie.

Somtimes I wonder why? I need to stop there because I am left wondering were are the brains!

marney.p
by on Feb. 21, 2012 at 7:13 PM

Many boys with disabilities go through puberty earlier than other kids. Which is a problem for people around them.

There is inapropriate sexual behaviour and there is predetory behaviour. And my alarm bells are going off.

 YOU DO NOT NEED  A CELL PHONE. We all grew up without them and survived. Take everything off him.

You are dealing with a VERY imature boy. And you need to stop this before something bad happens.

Good luck

There is an aspergers parent group on here. Maybe some parents may have had practical experience.

PurpleHazey
by on Feb. 21, 2012 at 7:18 PM


Quoting marney.p:

Many boys with disabilities go through puberty earlier than other kids. Which is a problem for people around them.

There is inapropriate sexual behaviour and there is predetory behaviour. And my alarm bells are going off.

 YOU DO NOT NEED  A CELL PHONE. We all grew up without them and survived. Take everything off him.

You are dealing with a VERY imature boy. And you need to stop this before something bad happens.

Good luck

There is an aspergers parent group on here. Maybe some parents may have had practical experience.

Yes they do.

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