13 year old son/ puberty and inapropiate pics help!
Hello Ladies! It has been a while since i was a part of any type of forum. So bear with me if my etiquette is rusty. ......lol
I am a mom of four boys-- 13 year old, twins 8, and a soon to be 5 year old.
At this point in time my concern is with my oldest. I have a good hubby but he is clueless most of the time when it comes to what to do with the kids. Which in turn makes it REALLY hard and second guess myself a lot.
I am really looking for some advise and opinions. It is mainly to do with my oldest right now. He has always been very kind hearted and never really gets in to trouble. To me he is not quit the norm. As technical minded and as bright as he can be... he is yet at the same time rather simple, reserverd and immature for his age. I feel he will find his way though...
The current issue weighing on my mind is I have caught him this past summer where he had been looking at pics of "GIRLS" on the computer. had gone as far as saving a couple of pics on his wii. i approached him at that time and we discussed that it is normal to be curious but how inappropriate it is and that it was not to happen again... He was embarrased of course I did most of the talking but he agreed he would not do it again...I deleted images and told him I was to check his stuff whenever i wanted...k no problem! I have since caught him 3-4 more times... where he has searched "sexy Girls" and"lesbian's" just for example... no my DH tells me not to embarss him. In all honesty it grosses me out.. maybe I am an old phoghy..lol I grew up in the 70's and 80's and things were sooo different then. I am wanting to know how common this is and what actions some of you have taken? I try and lock everything down with pass words and parental controls... but things just get by me sometimes in all the hustle and bustle of four boys. With him being soft and so reserved I don't want to be to harsh.. but also don't want him to get mixed emotions about what sex and love are really about. sorry this is soo long. I am just really bummed and not sure which way to go with this... also very disappointed that he has disobeyed me... Thank you in advance!