My hubby works long hours but on his day off he likes to cook and I love his cooking. House chores thats my territory.. so pretty even balance in our household.
I'm a SAHM by choice and my husband works full-time so I don't expect him to do a lot when he comes home. However he has some chores he does of his own accord - I don't ask him to do them. Things like dusting the high parts of the house (he's 17 inches taller than I am so for him it is easy, also his sight is better than mine so he sees when it needs doing while to me it's all a blur) and changing light bulbs (he can do it standing on the floor, I need a stepladder and I'm afraid of heights) He's a lousy cook and he knows it so when he declares 'cooks night off' he volunteers to go and get take-away which I appreciate.
Most of the time I want my husband to get out of my way but there are some things I need help with. Like bringing the laundry upstairs. The bulky baskets and accident prone me, I simply can't do it. I've falled too many times. I am usually done with laundry 3 days before he gets up and does it!
My husband helps and feels guilty if I'm doing something and he isn't, and vice-versa. My first husband never helped except for mowing, then he got into cooking so I let him do that every night and he cleaned up his dishes too. I miss that part of that marriage, we had some great meals and I didn't have to decide every night what to eat!
Yes mine helps he helps a lot. When the boys were babies we sat and discussed at length. At first I left lists of chores I would like him to accomplish. He then learned and "saw" what needed to be done. We both agreed with like a really clean house. He understood I can't live with chaos ! My husband works 3 days a week(14 hr days) On his 4 days off , he is great about doing laundry, washing floors, vacuuming. The only thing he can't do is grocery shop or cook. Sit down with your husband , write a list of what needs to be done daily, weekly, monthly. Explain that you need help. Ask him to choose which things he can do, Write them down on new list and post where he won't forget.



- shyangelmom
on Mar. 27, 2012 at 3:51 PM