An incident has happened at school which has my husband and I fuming.
In my daughters computer class the teacher had a sub one day a couple of weeks ago. The teacher had left a couple of assignments to be done while she was gone. My daughter did one of them and printed it up and turned it in then she went to the bathroom. She did leave her computer on because she was going to come back to do the other assignment. While she was in the bathroom, two other students went to her computer and printed up her work and turned it in as there's. My daughter did walk back in to the room and saw them leaving her computer so she kind of knew that something had happened but didn't make an issue about it because the sub was kind of "ditsy" sub and she doesn't feel she would have done anything about it.
When the teacher got back, she announced in front of the class about the cheating and when asked by another student who did it narrowed it down to the two other girls and my daughter by process of elimination (saying who it was not because they weren't here and other ways-leaving it down to my daughter and the girls). The assistant principal (the one who takes care of discipline) is saying that she had the opportunity to say something then to defend herself but no child is going to do that in front of a whole class and even if she asks the teacher can I go talk to you out in the hall, that would almost be the same thing. Anyway, the assistant principal is using that and the fact that my daughters story doesn't match up with the other girls stories to think she is the one lying. The punishment being passed down is that a "0" will be given on both assignments in question. She is also being assigned to "Friday Night Live" (going to sit in the library for a couple of hours on Friday night).
When my husband and I got an e-mail about the incident from the teacher saying that our daughter had been involved in cheating, we were angry at her and going to put forth more discipline at home. She gave us her side of the story and was very adamant about her innocence. We told her that if she is innocent, then these girls are not her friends. (one of them she never saw as a friend but one of them she thought was.) She then dropped that friend from her Face-book list. Sunday night, the "friend" sent her a text asking if my daughter was mad at her. Then through the texting conversation the girl confirmed my daughters story. That allowed us to have the other girl say it in writing, so we had the proof. We then took her phone to show to the assistant principal so she could see the texts from the other girl confirming our daughters story. She wasn't there so we took it to the head principal. He saw the texts and realized what happened. He then told the assistant principal. She then called my daughter in and told her that she is still going to have to go through the same discipline as the other girls anyway, only because she wasn't able to find the time to tell on the other students in a private way. The assistant principal is now calling it "Academic Dishonesty".
Though I understand that, "YES", she should have ratted out the other students, but she is not a cheater and should not have the same punishment as them if any at all. She is a 14 year old freshman and does not have experience with stuff like this. She has never been in any sort of trouble. Even as adults, we don't always know what we should do to handle things until we think about it later. Even some victims of crime, like rape or something, don't come forward right away but we don't punish them for being a victim. We feel like that is what they are doing to our daughter. I think the purpose of punishing our children is to "teach" them the "right" thing. All the school is teaching to my daughter through this is that she can not trust any of the teachers or administrators at school. And that is sad.
Sorry this has been so long and maybe kind of confusing-it sould be longer.
I would like to hear what you all think about all this. Is my daughter a cheater? Or just a victim?
We would still like to getr her name cleared, have the grades she earned re-instated and make sure it is completely off her record. We have already been through it with the principal, How would you handle it?
I want to hear your opinions.