We have a rule of no dating till 16. My 14 y/o 8th grader wants to date this nice 14 y/o neighborhood boy she goes to school with. By dating, she means, spend time with, short kisses. I said 'you can do what you've been doing - hanging out occasionally with mixed groups of girls and guys, no 1 on 1 time with him, no kissing, and the difference from before is that you both know you like each other."
She said ok, and then the next day admitted that they did give each other a quick peck on the lips when they said goodbye at the neighborhood collection of shops where they were spending a couple hours after school with some others.
Maybe I need to also say that only a couple days a week she can hang with him with others? Other limits I should put on this?
It's not really dating, yet it's skirting the edges. And she's only 14. On the other hand, she's a straight A, responsible, compliant child, and he's a good kid too, from a good family, their family also says no alone time, although their stipulations are only alone in a house, and they allowed him to start 'dating' in 7th grade. 7th grade! Some of the nicest families were letting their kids start this in 7th grade.
I'm not sure this is germane but he's good looking enough to make me a little silly.
Aargh. She's altogether too pretty. This is going to be a problem, not just with this fellow, but when she starts a different high school next year. . 16 feels like a century from now. What should I do?