My daughter is 18 yrs old. Her boyfriend and his friend moved in with us in February of this year, they would have been homeless otherwise. Her boyfriend confided in me this am that his feelings for her have changed and he wants to be friends with her like they were before they dated but he doesn't want to be her boyfriend anymore. He has no one else to live. I like him and his friend and don't want to kick them out. What do I do? My daughter comes first but this guy has been through a lot and we are close. He calls me mom. My daughter doesn't know whats coming, though I know she's not been happy with some of his behavior lately. Any suggestions what to do? These guys don't even have jobs yet.(they moved across state to live with us).
You are in quite a pickle! Perhaps you can have a private chat with your daughter and suggest she cool things down a bit until the guys are out on their own...
The guys need to find jobs ASAP and get out on their own. Maybe you can help them find a place of their own.
I wouldn't have taken them in but since you have already, I would probably give them time to save some money and move out. Sounds like the guys are moochers. They could be working at a fast food joint at least. He needs to break up with your dd asap. I wouldn't allow a charade in my home either.
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They already talked tonight. I can't go into it right now. Actually he moved across the state, not state lines. His dad (a real piece of work) cleaned the kid out of all his money and his truck, then kicked him out. We offerred him to stay until he gets on his feet. He doesn't plan on staying any longer than he needs. Oh, and mom told him to leave when he was a senior in high school because he didn't want to go to the college she chose for him. He did stay in the area long enough to at least complete high school, which no family members bothered to acknowledge.
They are 18, moved there 2 months ago and haven't found jobs? As far as him staying in your house, they would have had to find jobs asap! What have they been doing? This kid is not your kid, not your responsibility, and not your problem no matter how bad he's had it. Your daughter comes first.
Where are these boys' parents? Send them home...or to the local Y. If they are 18 years old, you don't have much control over where they go and what they do anyway.
I know you care about them, but your DD is more important, and she is going to be SO pissed if/when she finds out you knew what was about to happen and was more worried about HIM than her.
She did it!!
- hulbertzoo
on Apr. 27, 2012 at 8:14 PM