OK I will start with the fact that I am engaged and my fiance who has a daughter (Brianna) that is 17 will be 18 in July, I have a daughter (Emily) who is 17 and will be 18 in November ( i am 35 he is 36 ) I also have a 15 yr old son and a 9yr old daughter. The dilemma is that my daughter has her drivers license and has a car and just got a job, his daughter does not have a drivers license or a car so my daughter is the one to drive them everywhere...to/from school and so on. When my soon to be step daughter has after school activities my daughter has to wait around for her to be done before she can come home , which she usually doesn't mind because she can hang out with her boyfriend. Anyway whenever my daughter needs gas or needs her car fixed I either end up paying for it or my daughter pays what she can from her babysitting jobs. She just received her 1st real pay check today from her actual job yeah! The problem they are having is that when Brianna has money that she either got from her mom or another relative or for doing odd jobs for people (because she does not have a job) she doesn't bother to help Emily out with gas and/or repairs to her car. Me and my S/O have told them both that we don't want to be in the middle of them arguing about it, but I did tell my daughter to give her an ultimatum ..either help with gas/repairs or find a different way to get around. Not to be mean but my S/Os daughter is and has always been a bit spoiled and he admits it and says to me that he doesn't know how I raised such generous and caring children and how his turned out to be a whinny "the world revolves around me" daughter. Question is should we get involved in this matter or let them work it out? I tell my daughter to stand up for herself and just plain old tell her she needs to help. I also tell Brianna to put herself in Emily's shoes once and she how she would like it. Its also funny that when Brianna asks somebody else (one of her friends) to bring her somewhere she offers to give them gas money. I am just at my wits end having to always shell out money when I now Brianna has some...and at times she will lie and say she doesn't have any money. And I do not think it should be all up to my daughter to pay for it all. Lucky for her, her boyfriends dad is a mechanic and lets her pay when she can.