If this is the worst thing she does, we are WAY ahead!
For the last two years, our sixteen year old has been begging to get her cartilage pierced. First, we said no; when you are 18 you can do what you want. Then, hoping it would get her to be less lazy, we told her if she could pull off straight As (haven't seen them since 7th grade), we would take her to get it done.
A couple of days ago, Howardmy spouse was dropping her at school (he had an appointment a couple of blocks away, and she asked him again; he said yes (can you say, sleeping on couch?).
Last night, the child came home from her friend's house with her cartilage pierced. The friend has done this at least a dozen times, and I expected this. In fact, I asked my daughter if her friend had pierced the cartilage before I saw her ear (I always trust my "mommy sense").
She asked me if I was mad; I said no, I am very disappointed. Well, the D word turned on the waterworks. The spouse and I discussed it; as long as she keeps it clean, and pays for a doctor's visit if it gets infected, we will let her keep it.
Only 16 months until college!
Robin in Chicago
I don't blame you for not being happy for going against your rules.
Still, it sure as heck beats something like getting a tattoo without permission, or drinking or smoking!
Well, you got your DD straightened out.....what are you going to do with her Dad?? LoL. Any hope of seeing those lovely A's?
I would have been very upset. First of all you said no, and second an "amature" did it and is more likely to cause problems and infections than if someone who specialized did it.
Quoting boys2men2soon:Well, you got your DD straightened out.....what are you going to do with her Dad?? LoL. Any hope of seeing those lovely A's?
The dad is kind of the issue.
Right now, she has Bs in her two AP classes, and As in everything else. One AP class (English Composition) will probably be back at an a; the other (Government), well, we will be happy with the B
Quoting fantasticfour:I would have been very upset. First of all you said no, and second an "amature" did it and is more likely to cause problems and infections than if someone who specialized did it.
I said no, my spouse/her father said yes.
The amature has successfully pierced several ears, sterlized everything, and (unless at a tatoo parlor) no worries about Hepatitis
Her dad told her "yes". Its not her fault the two of you are not in agreement, but you need to work it out with her husband.
I think the terms you set are fair, and I think its fair to convey that you are disappointed and know that she manipulated her dad by asking a question she knew the answer to, when you were not around, but at the end of the day, dad said yes, so you cant punish her for it.
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- rkoloms
on Apr. 29, 2012 at 4:33 PM