I somewhat feel responsible... You see I have been saying not so nice things about my hubby.. He just is not who "I" think he should be.. He drinks and maybe I make too big a deal out of it, but then he talks terrible to my son.. Shut the F up, he calls him a Nambi Pambi and a lazy ass.. This is the deal.. I have complained about my son to my hubby and about my hubby to my son! I have not helped this situation one bit.. My son is rude to his sister, he's 16, she is 6, but she feeds on the fact that my hubby says things about him too.. They ( son and daughter) can't even be in the same room without a big blow up and ME.. I can't stand it, neither one listens to me.. As my hubby says, I am a pushover mom and of course he says it in front of them.. among other things..I have been married for 20 years and this way of living sucks! I guess it all is my fault for complaining about too many things.. My son is already going to have a hard life.if he doesn't change .. It's a long crazy story.. He is OCD and my husband is an asshole! Me, I just don't know anymore and my precious 6 year old daughter is affected by it all.. I just don't know.. We are supposed to honor our husbands and let them lead the family..does that mean that even though my son can be lazy, talk back at times and stuff that my husband can say these mean things? Tonight my hubby said.. Woman, I ain't putting up with your shit!!! I am so ready for a change.. I want peace mostly for my children, no counseling is not an option at this point.. Been there done that... Not good.. I guess the only person I can change is me and in the mean time, bite the heck out of my tongue!!! Sorry to go on and on.. Just ready for a change for the better..