Hi, I'm new. I'm Kris, 31, married and have a 12 yo son.
My husband is not my sons father. I left bio dad when my son was 4. Mentally abusive relationship, but that is for another post at another time, but long story short, I had been a single mother for nearly all of his life. Thank God for the help of my mother who came to my rescue and helped me greatly.
I am now starting to see how the absence of a father is affecting my child as it should not be a surprise to me, but my son is very sensitive. He does not have any really good friends, he plays well with others until they start teasing him. He is teased constantly, even by some of his friends at school, on the baseball team, in the neighborhood. He always ends up coming home crying or terribly upset. I have taught him how to stick up for himself, but he always gets hurt and takes everything to heart. He is not exactly a small kid, but I had always taught him that fighting is wrong and that he should talk it out or leave the situation. Especially for problems at school.
Lately, he is pushed toward wanting to fight. Wanting to teach some of the other kids a lesson and I am almost at the point of allowing him to do so, just once, to see if the kids would leave him alone. He's always one of the youngest wherever we go. I have attempted to ask him to make plans with other kids so I can take them to the movies and he shies away from it and would rather be upset by the kids in the neighborhood. I have started to make plans with the other moms on the baseball team to see if I can borrow their kids for an afternoon...But he is starting to have problems with the kids on the team as well. These kids are just being kids, but my son doesn't know how to handle the teasing, especially when a lot of them gang up on him. They aren't being malicious, but my sons feelings are hurt and I don't know how to help. DH has been helpful, but has zero experience with kids and has no idea either.
LOL, I know he isn't a baby anymore and that I will never be able to control what goes on around him, but it doesn't hurt to keep the bubble wrap handy?
Thanks for listening and letting me vent :)