They say that being a grandparent is a wonderful thing! You get to spoil your grandkids before handing them back to their parents. Well, I just turned 40 and discovered that my 17 year old daughter is now pregnant. She had dropped out of high school (all the teachers were bitches and stupid, according to her); following the older crowd, not coming home on time, etc.
Anyway, she has a boyfriend that she adores. He's a college sophmore and what not. I refused to have him in my apartment because they are both sexually active. My daughter lived a sheltered life. In fact her grandmother used to supercede every attempt I'd make to discipline her, sabotage even. My daughter knew that whenever she'd mess up, she get rewarded.
So I was hurt and livid when the pregnancy test had two stripes. She said that I shouldn't be angry, grinning all the while. It just so happens that she knew about it the whole time; she just went through the motions. I had planned to get into a job training program which offers GED classes and money. The only stipulation is that she don't get pregnant.
That's now out the window and tough love is now instilled. I said to her that she's now an adult and this responsibility is now hers. She and the bf must now figure out what they want to do. Abortion is out of the question, she said. I blunty told her that I will not take care of this baby. I love my daughter but at the same time, she must learn about life and its struggles. Having a baby is not like playing with a stuffed animal or a doll. You don't get to abandon it just because you're tired of playing with it.
The history I've had with her was hell. She has burned alot of bridges and has continued to do so here. Sigh, me, a grandmother at 40.