OK some backstory here first so you get the idea:
My ex husband was sentenced Friday to 20 years till life for 7 counts of child rape and molestation. It was a almost 4 year three ring legal circus to get him into the court room. His parents are well to do and could afford the best attorney. He had 8 victims two of which were his own kids.
My eldest daughter snapped the night before last. After a lifetime of his abuse, the trial, losing her grandmother, driving from Vegas to Missoula Mt. and back home in a 2 day spree, being pushed by her girlfriend she just lost it. I do NOT condone hitting, ever. She and her GF got into a fight that turned into something like a WWF cage match. They both have bruises and cuts.
Now she feels completely disgusted and totally lost. As she says "I'm not that person" and no she isn't. She's been a turn-the-other-cheek girl for a long time. Or as I call it.. a pressure cooker. Bottles until it explodes. She has asked to go to therapy and as the vicitm of a crime, or series of them, she is entitled to it. But that doesn't help me help her to see she is still a wonderful girl who just lost control. How do I get her to see she is still the same beautiful girl, inside and out, that she was a week ago?