Do some people have parties just to make others feel bad?
Today after school, a "friend" of my daughter's is having her birthday party. For some unknown reason, my daughter was not invited, and only 3 girls from school were invited. But, just to make sure everyone knows about the event, a giant pink limo picked up the "lucky" girls at school!!! It was quite a spectacle. I can only assume that the parents wanted everyone to know about this party. My daughter, of course, was hurt. I am livid. What kind of adults engage in that type of ostentatious and cruel behavior? Am I naive?
So, I'm thinking about hiring an even bigger and more outrageous limo for my daughters party next year . . . just kidding. But really - what is wrong with people? Or am I over-reacting?
Seriously ?? You are Livid? WHY ? It is their money and choice how to celebrate their child's birthday ! I wonder if your feeling would be different if your DD was invited ? You Are Way Over reacting !
I completely agree that it is not possible to invite every girl at school to a party, but is it necessary to make sure everyone else knows about the party and exactly who is invited? A few months ago there was a different party where almost every girl in one class came to school in a party dress and there were only a couple of girls in this class that were excluded. Fortunately, my daughter was not in this class. But, the girls who were left out felt very bad. My impression is that these parents purposely try to create exclusive events to prove their own and their child's social standing. This is a very small school so it is very obvious when certain children are left out.
Quoting jujuhu299:I completely agree that it is not possible to invite every girl at school to a party, but is it necessary to make sure everyone else knows about the party and exactly who is invited? A few months ago there was a different party where almost every girl in one class came to school in a party dress and there were only a couple of girls in this class that were excluded. Fortunately, my daughter was not in this class. But, the girls who were left out felt very bad. My impression is that these parents purposely try to create exclusive events to prove their own and their child's social standing. This is a very small school so it is very obvious when certain children are left out.
I do agree that there are many moms out there that like to show off. I would look at it that you would not want your child to act like that so it is just better she did not go. Teach her to be better than them. Have a normal small party and invite those kids. You would be surprised at how much they end up liking the small back yard parties.
OMG, this is just some of the over the top crap we have been talking about on other posts. Why a parent would allow such a party and picked up at school, I will never know.
If your dd was a good friend, I would be livid. I mean I would never have excluded any of my good friends from a party ever. It sure shows your dd's pecking order with her so called friends. I agree, teach her to be way better than them.
Even IF my dd was invited to a party like that she would know it was WAY over the top. We can afford to do parties like that but we never ever would.
Quoting jujuhu299:I completely agree that it is not possible to invite every girl at school to a party, but is it necessary to make sure everyone else knows about the party and exactly who is invited? A few months ago there was a different party where almost every girl in one class came to school in a party dress and there were only a couple of girls in this class that were excluded. Fortunately, my daughter was not in this class. But, the girls who were left out felt very bad. My impression is that these parents purposely try to create exclusive events to prove their own and their child's social standing. This is a very small school so it is very obvious when certain children are left out.
Yep, you can't control insensitive, mean, rude people in the world. You can control if you are friends with people like this though. Dump them.
Quoting bizzeemom2717:
Again, teachable moment..talk to your DD about why you don't agree with the other girls/parents actions. You will NEVER be able to control other's actions, so not worth getting upset over things you can't control.
Quoting jujuhu299:I completely agree that it is not possible to invite every girl at school to a party, but is it necessary to make sure everyone else knows about the party and exactly who is invited? A few months ago there was a different party where almost every girl in one class came to school in a party dress and there were only a couple of girls in this class that were excluded. Fortunately, my daughter was not in this class. But, the girls who were left out felt very bad. My impression is that these parents purposely try to create exclusive events to prove their own and their child's social standing. This is a very small school so it is very obvious when certain children are left out.
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- jujuhu299
on May. 18, 2012 at 4:19 PM