Disciplining 17 year old who snuck out. Any suggestions?
We have taken away vehicle, all phone privileges, all computer privileges, TV in bedroom, stereo in bedroom, and have her wearing a GPS watch that alerts us to her whereabouts. She has been asked to apologize to the officer who caught her, as she had lied to him in front of parent when confronted as to what occurred when caught. It just seems as though my daughter doesn't get the seriousness of a girl her age being out at 3:30 a.m. I don't feel she understands the magnitude of her actions. Any suggestions of what could have been done or what else could be done??? Thanks for any and all suggestions.
See for me once DD turns 17 holding her to strict rules will be hard as she'll be a freshman in college. How do you enforce rules on a "child" when they are attending adult classes. DD will be 19 when she gets finished with community college and heading off to University. I am not sure how I'm going to enforce rules at either time.
I think your consequences are fabulous, and I'd add a time limit - like one month. So it's severe but time limited consequences. And before the consequences can be lifted, she also has to convince you that she agrees all the following actions are inexcusable and tell you why, and convince you they'll never happen again: sneaking out, being out at 3 am, being out at night to meet boys, lying to your parents.
Who knew a gps watch existed? Cool. There's also gps software you can add to cell phones. You may want to surreptitiously add that to her phone, so she may 'accidently' leave her watch and home, but you have back-up.
Quoting Momof2Stepof3:
See for me once DD turns 17 holding her to strict rules will be hard as she'll be a freshman in college. How do you enforce rules on a "child" when they are attending adult classes. DD will be 19 when she gets finished with community college and heading off to University. I am not sure how I'm going to enforce rules at either time.
There's been alot of posts in the past where we've all discussed rules for young adults who are living at home. I don't think many of us have any problem holding our young adults to a set of rules that have been massaged to be appropriate for post age 18. Living with you comes with some rules.
When my college aged kid is away at college, of course I'm not monitoring her 3 am returns to her dorm room, nor do I care. Pass your classes, don't get arrested or disciplined by the school or you'll be coming home to finish undergrad. That's the extent of my oversight and consequences while you're away. We've had loads of talks about college dangers and how to stay safe and focused. Not being an idiot while away on your own, is not for my management any longer.
I can see where this could be difficult. Do you believe since she has a mind set reference her education that she would be the type to "mess" up?
Quoting Momof2Stepof3:
See for me once DD turns 17 holding her to strict rules will be hard as she'll be a freshman in college. How do you enforce rules on a "child" when they are attending adult classes. DD will be 19 when she gets finished with community college and heading off to University. I am not sure how I'm going to enforce rules at either time.
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on May. 31, 2012 at 12:07 PM