Dear Moms,
Today I decided to pick up my older girls. And while i wait for my 12 year old in 6th grade her friends come out and greet me s usual...But a boy a have never seen comes up to me and say hi Mrs._____ and he kisses me (in france when people say hi you kiss both cheeks)!
Then Im i say hu back and then he talks to me about my 12 year old and how preety and nice she i. And he said to ME "i could just kiss her". Afterward he gave me his phone number ect.... I was frozen speech less and i did not tell my daughter a thing.
Should i let her have a boyfriend
(as long as she dosent make me a granny you know what i mean...)
I would let her decide when she is ready and leave it between them. Personally, I think she is a bit young but they start earlier these days. That kid has his game on for sure. WOW. I dont know how I would react in that situation. I had girls come up to me and tell me to tell my oldest son to go out with them but I never interfered. I let that be his decision. He has yet to have a serious girlfriend and he is 18 and just graduated from high school. I would let your daughter decide and leave it at that.
Quoting DAHLONEGAMOMMY:I would let her decide when she is ready and leave it between them. Personally, I think she is a bit young but they start earlier these days. That kid has his game on for sure. WOW. I dont know how I would react in that situation. I had girls come up to me and tell me to tell my oldest son to go out with them but I never interfered. I let that be his decision. He has yet to have a serious girlfriend and he is 18 and just graduated from high school. I would let your daughter decide and leave it at that.
Its a bitter sweet felling!
When I was younger my parents NEVER let us talk to boyz invite them to parties, as if they were an illegal drug we went to a girl school (horrid) we could not have boys near until the end of COLLEGE
However i dont want me daughters to feel like me and my sisters did.
Why cant we experience love? But, there must be a reason behind this no boys allowed "law"
- Teen pregnacy
- If breakup depression
- Lack of time spent with family and friends ect
(Ideas from me sister)
But if i dont allow they might get mad
Honey, they can get mad. They have all of their adult lives to experience love and little as just girls. I have boys and I didnt let them go on dates until they were 14, even then it was a group outing. I would suggest you not care about making them mad. You are not their friend and its not your job to be. Let her be a girl. She is way too young. I wouldnt interfere and make sure she knows how you feel. I just wouldnt get in the middle. I wouldnt tell my son to go out with any of the girls that came up to me. He never wanted anything like a relationship that was serious with girls. He always said he would rather be friends with all the girls than date just one. I never argued with that logic.
Quoting LaeticiaC:
Quoting DAHLONEGAMOMMY:I would let her decide when she is ready and leave it between them. Personally, I think she is a bit young but they start earlier these days. That kid has his game on for sure. WOW. I dont know how I would react in that situation. I had girls come up to me and tell me to tell my oldest son to go out with them but I never interfered. I let that be his decision. He has yet to have a serious girlfriend and he is 18 and just graduated from high school. I would let your daughter decide and leave it at that.
Its a bitter sweet felling!
When I was younger my parents NEVER let us talk to boyz invite them to parties, as if they were an illegal drug we went to a girl school (horrid) we could not have boys near until the end of COLLEGE
However i dont want me daughters to feel like me and my sisters did.
Why cant we experience love? But, there must be a reason behind this no boys allowed "law"
- Teen pregnacy
- If breakup depression
- Lack of time spent with family and friends ect
(Ideas from me sister)
But if i dont allow they might get mad
12 is too young, imo. Why are you worried they may be mad? You are the parent....when they are old enough to make good decisions, they won't need your permission.
12 is way too young. What is the rush? No advantages. Loads of disadvantages.
This does make for an interesting useful conversation with your DD. Does she think a person can 'love' someone else they haven't spent much time with? Can a person be 'in love' with someone at 12, or 16 or 19? What's the difference between a crush and in love? Great conversation. Just the right activity for a 12 yr old to have, helps her become more grounded, with some thought through perspective, in time for her start of dating - in high school.
I don't know your cultures, but that sounds kind of creepy to me. I would talk to her about who the boy was and what she thought of him if the culture allows that kind of behavior.
She did it!!
- LaeticiaC
on Jun. 19, 2012 at 6:51 PM