mom, i need...

[wodntulk2kno1]

Everyday my kids need this or that. I am so sick of hearing it. I am fortunate that I can provide for them, but come on its everyday. What could you possibly need everyday. I have even told them can there be one day when you dont need this or that? I grew up with parents who were very well off and didnt need something everyday besides lunch money. What is it with these kids, they think were their personal bank account. Ok that is my vent for the day!

Ok, I understand where all you ladies are coming from. Thinking about this more and more I think it has to do with me also. My kids always ask for something everyday...like my dd asked for a bigger fan for her room we have central air. I think what it is is they always are coming at me with something new everyday. I am a nurse I take care of people at work and alot of them need things. Then I come home and everyone here needs something. I dont get down time and I think I am lost in translation so to speak.

[mystepmomlife]

We don't give out money here unless it is earned.  If they want to go to the movies, have a party, etc. then they have to earn the money.  They can do that by doing extra chores for us or for relatives.  Tonight for instance my stepdaughter and her friend are cleaning the house because they want to go to the movies tomorrow.   Even her friends know that we are not going to just give her money to go.  Her friend is helping her clean actually because she wants to earn money to go to the movies too!  I don't mind giving them money to do something if they have done something to earn it.  She often complains that other kids get money all the  time from their parents and don't have to do anything for it.  My response is that nothing is handed to you in life.  You have to earn it. 

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[wodntulk2kno1]

I understand, it was not the money issue. It was just general ..I explained earlier.
things are better now and they have stopped asking me to do this or that

Quoting Maverick1957:

Give them a weekly allowance AFTER they've done their chores.  Whatever the amount, they need to BUDGET their spending.  Spend it all at once?  Don't come asking for more.  My SS is famous for asking dad for $20 and it's gone in 1 day or night.  Recently he spent over $100 & this wasn't "allowance".  Heck, I don't spend $100 in a MONTH!  Also his "buds" are famous for getting him to pay for their meal saying "I'll get it next time" or "I'll pay you back".  Yea, right.  Good luck and remember...you're teaching them financial habits that will carry on into adult hood.  Saying "No" isn't always easy....