So my DD is 13, and attached herself to a 15 year old 8th grade boy this year. As their relationship progressed, it got increasingly more scary. He would call over and over again if she didn't answer, he punched things, he was ALWAYS in trouble, even going so far as to get pulled off a bus and put in the back of a police car for threatining the driver.
I limited their interaction, but soon found that they were sneaking around behind my back. After I caught them the 3rd time, I told them they weren't allowed to see each other anymore. I've restricted my daughter from the phone, internet, and leaving the house, but she's still sneaking around behind my back. I caught her sending texts on her Ipod and dropped it in water, and tonight found out she's been sneaking phone calls to the kid at midnight nearly every night for the past two weeks.
I generally follow a rule that I don't attempt to pick my DDs friends because I know it makes the temptation even more but the relationship with this boy is EXTREMELY unhealthy and the boy is manipulative. A trait my daughter has clearly inherited. My DD has started leaving me notes saying she wants to die if she can't see him, and short of locking her in a closet, I just don't know what to do.
I'm at my wits end.