My 14 year old son has been dating a very nice girl for about 6 months now. I really like her, I think she is a very nice girl. I have talkd to her mother before about wanting them to be supervised at all times and all of that. Her mom told me that her daughter thinks sexual stuff is "yucky" and that she is not even thinking about that kind of stuff... yeah, right.
Fast forward to last week- they were supposed to be riding their bikes to the store. When they didnt come back my DH went looking for them and found them down on the beach and neither one of them had any shirts on- like no bra no shirt- nothing.
So I talked to her mom about this and she basically acted like it was a one time thing. She told me that her daughter is a "good christian girl and definitely not having sex till marriage". She even told me that I should feel lucky that my son is with her daughter and not some slutty girl. She said that her daughter is not even going to kiss him on the cheek anymore and she trusts her daughter 100%.
All she was worried about was that I was going to make them break up and that I thought her daughter was a bad kid.
*insert eyeroll here*
I do like the mother but I just cant understand why she is so blind to what is going on? You are telling me that your daughter was half naked on a public beach at 14 but she is going to wait till marriage to have sex?!?!? What planet do you live on?!?!?
I really need some advice on what to do with this situation. I have already told my son no more "bike rides" or being alone at all for any reason. I just feel like I have no support on this. I am getting really sick of always being the bad guy.
I just wanted to add that they have NOT had sex yet. I know that for a fact. They talk about all of their "activites" through text and I read all the texts on my sons phone every night. So I know that the whole no shirts/bra thing is as far as they have gone so far.
Other Mom seems like she doesn't want to know what her daughter is up to. I definitely would not let your son go over to her house. Mom is obiviously not going to supervise them if she "trusts" her daughter so much.
I would only let him see her when they are in a supervised group activity or she is coming with your family on an outing.
Keep playing the bad guy. You're being a really good Mom.
Melissa 
Be the bad guy. It's your job. I would enforce the supervision at all times if they are into that heavy of pettying.
Thank you!! Kids do one thing in front of their parents and a whole different thing when they are alone. I just wish this mother would realize this before it is too late.
Quoting roseym:
I'd be cautious, cause I trusted my daughter 100%( she would get grossed out even when people would kiss on TV, she would hide her face) she had a baby at 16....
I also found some texts since the no shirt incidnet. They were from the girlfriend that said "I hope when we go to the boardwalk we can find a photobooth to hide in for a little while because I am going crazy for "some"!"
Yeah so they have no intentions on slowing anything down. I just have to try to make sure they are supervised at all times. I will do everything I can to make sure that they dont have the opportunity to do anything at all. And her mother can continue to call me "overprotective" and "crazy" all she wants.
Rejection
- yogamom16
on Jun. 27, 2012 at 12:47 PM