HI HAVE A 14 YEAR OLD SON!

[deedee3181]

hI just wanted to know is it normal for 14 year old boy being kind of like a bullie to me he will be 15 and has always been sweet but latley he just talks down to me he has 2 sisters but much older he is like a only child he is going to a friend this weekend and i hate to say this but iam happy any advice ? thanks have a great day!

[CrazyLife1996]

Put him in his place. Don't allow the behavior it will only get worse. He needs to respect you.

None of my boys would ever think of disrespecting me like that.

[alik1983]

Why do you allow it?  Did you forget that you're the mother?  Frankly, I wouldn't be allowing him to go to his friend's house after having disrespected me.  If you're happy he's going to be away, it's already out of hand.  You need to put your foot down and teach this kid some respect.  I get the feeling that you've kind of coddled him up to now seeing as he's the "baby" by such a large gap.  You need to stop babying him and be a parent.

[DarlaHood]

Everything the other two moms just said.  You are teaching him how to treat you.  It's normal for teens to be a bit argumentative or to have a little attitude, but you should be able to keep him in check.  If he's challenging you, take him down a notch.

[sunflowers12]

It's a phase my boys went through it right about the same age... I told them straight knock it off buddy I am not scared of you!! it helped to change their tune a bit.. but it is some weird thing they go throu... Not that its perfect but is does remind them that your mom still... Also sarcasm is a large part of all teenage boys I say if you can't beat them join them:)

[ashleighmama]

Hello and welcome to the group. My ds is kind of the same way, not necessarily a bully to me but he has gotten really disrespectful in the last year. I try to stop it but I've always been accused of being too lenient. I joke around with him a lot and am pretty open with him, but sometimes he takes it too far. Sometimes he's just mouthy. I try to chalk it up to being a teenager. I don't expect him to be perfect, and I know he's testing his limits like every teenager does.

[luckysevenwow]

Welcome to the board!

[DrCandace]

Yes, this is NORMAL for this age exactly....they are growing and going through a VERY strong hormonal and confusing time,...am I still a boy? Am I a man? Both are ever present and he is confused and his brain, (check the medical info ) is crazy now ....really. They make stupid choices and they are EVER challenging us as to what the relationship between mom and son is!! Get some good books FAST and do NOT let him control you or your household. Talk to him gently at night or whenever you can get a tender moment and the other bad times, let him know this is YOUR house and this behavior will not be tolerated. Keep reminding him that you see him becoming a man and reassure him because he is going nuts inside, I promise you. ...Girls, offers for drugs, self image....all this is being thrown at him,...try to give encouraging words without babying him, and stand firm on treatment of yourself. I say,..."are you sure that's what you want to say to me..?". Or. " pardon me?" this gives him a chance to rephrase and be more respectful. Most of all, try to hear what words come out of your mouth....sometimes we moms make it worse. I think you should give yourself a little pat on the back because if he weren't a little like this, he wouldn't be the strong boy you raised,...who will become a strong man. It also means he KNOWS you love him, and that is in part why he feels he can get away with it....but don't let him,hope it helps....!!

[deedee3181]

 Hi thank you so much what you wrote to me reallly makes me think i have raise two girls ages 30 and 25 so its very different to me to raise a boy i also have a grandson who is turning three iam going to get some books and read read like you said thanks again and have a super day hope to get to know you better  Dianna

[Barabell]

Welcome to the group!

My son isn't quite that age yet. He's about a year younger than your son. My son did go through a phase of talking back and eye rolling when he turned 11, and I would remind him that behavior like that was not acceptable. I would tell him if it continued that he would be grounded for it. Usually a reminder fixed the issue, but if it had continued, he would have received a punishment.

Good luck!

[MrsBLB]

Hello and welcome to the group.  Hormones probably play a part in his behavior.  If I were you, I would nip it in the bud now.  It's unacceptable.  Good luck and hang in there.