I asked my son yesterday if he has ever watched a porn movie. First he said no. Then I looked at him and squinted my eye and I asked him again...Then he said "No, what is that?" I admit I was relieved, however, now I'm concerned that he doesn't even know what porno is and he is 13. Now I surely dont want to encourage it, but I also don't want him to be oblivious and naive. I am a single mother of three (ex is not around) and I (ashamingly) have not had the talk with my son. I don't even know where to begin. It was easy as heck with my daughter tho!
I have made sure all my children that are old enough are completely educated on all forms of sex. We wanted them to learn from us not their friends at school.
We really have stressed sexting and underage nude photos because of the facts that it not only can e past around to everyone but is illegal.
You can be sure that his classmates or friends will fill him in if you don't. Set the standard as to how you want your son to think about sex. Mine is 14 now and we've encouraged questions as well as starting discussions on sex. As for porno, well that was apparently introduced to him by a friend while in our home. The other boy was a year and a half older. One day I caught my son watching rather obscene videos on YouTube (girl on girl). He clicked it off, but not before I saw it. He admitted that his friends showed others to him when he was as young as 10. I didn't show shock (boy, was it hard). We discussed it right then and there. I assured him it wasn't abnormal to want to look at such things. I was glad he found females beautiful and appealing, but sometimes these videos degrade females and are unrealistic. Since we are Christian, I told him that getting 'hooked' on this sort of stuff can take your mind away from more important things. They can foster unrealistic ideas about sex and set him for problems in future relationships. I didn't push things too much but let him know that if he found it embarrassing for his mother to see him doing, then he already knew it wasn't quite right. Since then he's asked me more questions and had a good talk with his dad when they were out together. Surprisingly, he seemed quite satisfied with our answers. As to whether he's stopped, well, he may be getting better at hiding it, but I think he's moved on the ROBLOX videos because I can hear them through the door. He has to run out and show some of them to me because they are sooo cool.
Usually they teach sex ed in 5th grade in our state. It is long past time for you to be talking about sex, responsibility, respect, and consequences...babies, diseases, etc.
I would even be he knows people at school who are having or have sex.
I love the answer what is it?..My older teens still try to use that!
Pictures of your teen
- savelijes
on Jul. 3, 2012 at 8:46 AM