Hey. ladies, I have a quick question for ya and I am new to this sight but I am raising my sister-in-laws two girls and my husband and I want our own child but with how things are going I am really hesitent on trying. We are being asked by state to adopt the girls but I don't want to adopt them cause of the drama they are stiring up in my home and creating division between my husband and me and our church family. How would you deal with it or should I ask state to remove the girls? Please tell me what you would do.
First of all, why are your raising them? How old are they, how long have you been raising them?
This.... Agree wholeheartedly!! Make sure you know that most states offer services for kids who have been in the system. You will need help and resources to know what to do to help these girls get adjusted and emotionally healthy.
Quoting bizzeemom2717:
The girls deserve to be with a family that loves them unconditionally and understands that not only do teen girls normally have drama, sounds like if these teens are up for adoption they have a reason to be acting out. What a sad situation for them. :(
Agree. I think family counselling would be a big help.
Quoting fammatthews4:
"stirring up drama" that could be normal teenage behavior or it could be more I can't offer much advise without specifics. What have you done to help them through this adjustment? Counseling especially family counseling might be a good idea. In my opinion you decided to take these girls in now find any and all resources that you can to make this work. They are yours now and they need to feel loved, wanted and accepted like your own children would feel
Ok first off, the only way you and your husband could be "divided" is if you two allow it, plain and simple..Also the church shouldn't have any say how you handle this. Teenaged girls ARE drama, period. It is what it is. I agree that counseling would be a great idea. Those girls need love, understanding and strong boundaries.
What is happening that you're concerned about and how old are they? Also, why have you and your husband been asked to raise them (i.e. why are they being taken away from their parents)?
Personally, I would hope that you would consider adopting them if the situation warrants it. It could just be that they need a stable home. Looking at it from possibly their point of view, the teenage years are hard enough that I couldn't imagine trying to go through them with a foster family if I had family members that were capable of taking me in.
Welcome by they way also your kids are not going to be they way they maybe but to say there's no drama would be a lie... My best advice don't get married don't have kids if you avoid these two you will live a long happy life.. other then that it full of craziness that is not for the faint of heart!! Hope it all works out for ya thou:)
Advice on my defiant teen daughter please!
- Godstime1
on Jul. 7, 2012 at 11:41 PM