My son is 13 and doesnt remember anything about his chores. He does remember to feed and water the dog every day. He also has trash duty which he waits until I tell him that I am going to take it out before he gets up to do it. He is also to keep his room clean and make his bed when he gets up and sometimes he doesnt do that either. His own laundry is a new thing for him which I'm thinking is going in the same direction.
The more I think about it, the more i think he is just being lazy. He is also not brushing his teeth - yes I ask him and he still tells the truth! haha. That is non- negotiable to me. He needs to do it.
So anyway I have started a couple of new things today. He did not brush his teeth - again. He did not take the trash out after throwing something away and the trash was over flowing a little too. So I took away his allowance for the week and gave him dish duty for a week. I told him that I should not have to remind him to get his chores done and I really hate bitching about it too cause I don't want to nag.
He has also asked to get an animal for his own today. I told him today that he needs to show better responsibility for the chores he has now and if he can prove he can do those things, then we can talk about a pet.
Any advice on how to get him to be less lazy or forgetful or whatever is going on with him? I HATE hate hate to nag about what he needs to get done and quite frankly should not have to remind or tell him to do it. Am I being too pushy? Should I let him do it in his own time as long as it gets done and doesnt affect anyone as far as trash falling on the floor, or the dog starving, etc? Should I be even tougher?> OR - sorry this is so long! Am I on the right track and just keep enforcing?