I have no idea where to start....My son usually gets home from his Public Service (Children are required to get a certain amount of service hours to graduate) at three. He walks from home to the local library. Anyways, it was four and he still wasn't home. He is sixteen and went with a friend so I thought he was fine. At about four thirty I heard someone knocking on the door.
This is where the bad stuff comes in.
He had a black eye, had cuts on his arms and face, bruising, and was clutching his groin. He came in crying and I called an ambulance. When he came back home(he was at the hospital for five hours) he finally told me what happened.
His friend had been sick and couldnt walk with him. On the way home, a woman saw him while driving and stopped by the curb. She then pulled out a knife and ran up to him. She threatened to kill him unless he got in the car with her. Apparently he was raped and she had forced him to do HORRIBLE things.
I called the police and they have arrested the woman, but my son is not handling this well at all. He wont eat, watch TV, or do anything but sleep. What should I do to comfort him? This is really hurting the whole family.
*update*
He is going to start therapy tomorrow, I would have done it sooner, but my insurance company was insane. He started telling his father more details and....lets just say the things he told him were not very pretty. He is getting slightly better mentally, although physically he still has bruising and some other bad injuries. The court system is acting retarded and telling me I have to wait for a ridiculous amount of time to do anything about it. I also forgot to mention that his birthday was today....he was not happy to say the least. Im also worried about my husband. He was raped by a man when he was Seventeen and is not handling his anger in safe ways...
I know this was jumbled up and about a million different topics, but it feels good to vent.
*Another update"
Okay...this is a big one.
To put it bluntly, my son tried to kill himself. My husband was at work and me and my daughter were asleep. I woke up to use the bathroom and saw my son. There were four or five bottles of different medications on the floor and he was about to take more. I called the ambulance and I havent heard anything yet. I do know that he is getting his stomach pumped. I cant go there until tomorrow sadly. My daughter doesnt know about this yet because she is still asleep.
I have a lot on my plate.
*Third Update*
I have finally heard something about my son. He was diagnosed with PTSD, Major Depression, and Schizophrenia. They are going to keep him for at least five days or longer unless medication doesnt help. The only things he told the doctors were that everything was his fault and that the world shouldnt have to deal with filth like him.
I am completely crushed and my husband is faring twice as worse.
Some good news:
The Schizophrenia was directly related to the PTSD and has already dissapeared. His condition has gotten much better than it was. He is still depressed, but he is now eating and participating in therapy. They are going to keep him until the 31st because he is still highly unstable. My husband has gotten some counseling as well. My daughter is really worried about her brother....I mean, she looks like she is about to explode. I'm getting her help. I am undergoing therapy too. The court system is finally cooperating too.
The doctors are saying that when he is discharged he will be highly likely to snap and that I should keep tabs on him.
Things are finally looking up in away :)
This is where the bad stuff comes in.
He had a black eye, had cuts on his arms and face, bruising, and was clutching his groin. He came in crying and I called an ambulance. When he came back home(he was at the hospital for five hours) he finally told me what happened.
His friend had been sick and couldnt walk with him. On the way home, a woman saw him while driving and stopped by the curb. She then pulled out a knife and ran up to him. She threatened to kill him unless he got in the car with her. Apparently he was raped and she had forced him to do HORRIBLE things.
I called the police and they have arrested the woman, but my son is not handling this well at all. He wont eat, watch TV, or do anything but sleep. What should I do to comfort him? This is really hurting the whole family.
*update*
He is going to start therapy tomorrow, I would have done it sooner, but my insurance company was insane. He started telling his father more details and....lets just say the things he told him were not very pretty. He is getting slightly better mentally, although physically he still has bruising and some other bad injuries. The court system is acting retarded and telling me I have to wait for a ridiculous amount of time to do anything about it. I also forgot to mention that his birthday was today....he was not happy to say the least. Im also worried about my husband. He was raped by a man when he was Seventeen and is not handling his anger in safe ways...
I know this was jumbled up and about a million different topics, but it feels good to vent.
*Another update"
Okay...this is a big one.
To put it bluntly, my son tried to kill himself. My husband was at work and me and my daughter were asleep. I woke up to use the bathroom and saw my son. There were four or five bottles of different medications on the floor and he was about to take more. I called the ambulance and I havent heard anything yet. I do know that he is getting his stomach pumped. I cant go there until tomorrow sadly. My daughter doesnt know about this yet because she is still asleep.
I have a lot on my plate.
*Third Update*
I have finally heard something about my son. He was diagnosed with PTSD, Major Depression, and Schizophrenia. They are going to keep him for at least five days or longer unless medication doesnt help. The only things he told the doctors were that everything was his fault and that the world shouldnt have to deal with filth like him.
I am completely crushed and my husband is faring twice as worse.
Some good news:
The Schizophrenia was directly related to the PTSD and has already dissapeared. His condition has gotten much better than it was. He is still depressed, but he is now eating and participating in therapy. They are going to keep him until the 31st because he is still highly unstable. My husband has gotten some counseling as well. My daughter is really worried about her brother....I mean, she looks like she is about to explode. I'm getting her help. I am undergoing therapy too. The court system is finally cooperating too.
The doctors are saying that when he is discharged he will be highly likely to snap and that I should keep tabs on him.
Things are finally looking up in away :)
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on Aug. 1, 2012 at 3:46 PM
I feel the same way..Hugs and best wishes to all of you!
Quoting mumsy2three:Just read latest update and wanted to say that it's good to hear that everyone is seeking help. I wish you all the best.
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on Aug. 3, 2012 at 12:16 AM
love and hugs to you and your family. i hate to hear things like this happening to good ppl. there is no since in the ugliness in this world. when are we all going to start loving each other because we are living human beings. i know that you dont know me but if you need to vent message me.
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on Aug. 6, 2012 at 12:56 AM
I am sorry to hear about your son. My 17 year old was raped by his 2 cousin who was a male when he was 5. It was hard on the whole family. But talking and taking it one day at a time. Time heals. Some days are easier than others. Please hang in there give them sometime to heal. Please only listen when your son talks about what happened.
Take care
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Advice on my defiant teen daughter please!
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on Jul. 18, 2012 at 2:07 PM