Do you think my friend is right?

[M0m89659132]

My friend has two daughters (age 20 and 19) and one 17 year old boy. She says that her daughters can live with her for free and for as long as they want, but that she is going to kick her son out as soon as he is eighteen unless he can pay all of her bills. Her only explanation was "Because he is going to be a man and men have to do everything". Her sons birthday is in a week. He has a full time job and has a full scholarship to college, so he is fully able to support himself. Her daughters dont do a thing and havent worked a day in their life.

Is it wrong that I fail to see her logic?

[PurpleHazey]

Quoting lnrmom:

Yes she's wrong and she's doing a gross dis-service to her daughters.

I have never heard it said quit like that but I agree.

[PurpleHazey]

I think all kids should pay rent after 18 unless they are going to college.

[fullxbusymom]

BS what works for one should be the same for the other.  Sex means nothing.

[lazyd]

I think that is TOTALLY UNFAIR!  If I were her son i would leave the family home anyway, if my mom was going to treat me like that and never give my mom a dime or help her out in any way.  Im sorry, i know thats mean, but....  This mom is just raising her daughters to be spoiled brats!!  The daughters WILL NOT find a man to take care of them unless they make a lot of money!  These girls better find jobs to support themselves soon or your friend is going to find herself with two daughters still living at home when they are 60!  Your friend needs to GROW UP! and live in the 21st century.  It just sounds like she is bitter cuz no man has taken care of her like she wanted. 

[dobrd]

MOm89659132, I know my big mouth would tell himm what is what, take all his money w/him to collage.. I'd also tell him don't look back, live his life.. The girls/mother need a mental tune up.. Take Care, Donna....

[Roo1234]

I also know families like this. No one escapes unscathed. The sons feel unloved and equate money/reward with love, the daughters end up with a strained relationship with siblings, sometimes a feeling of inferiority (seen as unable to care for themselves), and/or sometimes so materialistic and high maintenance that they can't maintain a healthy relationship/marriage because they expect to me catered to rather than partnered with.

She isn't doing anyone any favors

[Ann7227]

She is wrong. I don't agree with her.

[TCain0001]

Wow!  Totally stupid!  First off, those daughters need to have been taught how to support themselves, not coddled.  Her son being self-sufficient (on his own initiative)......mores the better for him!  Also, if she's kicking him out, she needs to do the same to the girls, prepared or not (learn the hard way, baby!).  As a parent of 3, I know what it's like to try to prep the kids for the real world.  Mine are 19, 16, and 13.  They're more than welcome to stay here as long as they like, but whether they stay here or move out, they need at least a part-time job to help, and continue their education.  My oldest just had an interview for a better paying job (he works a McDonald's and goes to college full time), my 16yo is a junior in high school and until he can find someone who will hire him at this age, he goes out and mows lawns, rakes leaves, shovels snow, etc.  My daughter is only 13, and she's so tired of being without money, is trying to find a babysitting job or odd jobs (even she rakes leaves and shovels snow!)

[10yrsapart9505]

She has no logic...she sounds like a piss poor excuse for a mother imo.  If i were her son, i'd move out at 12:01am the day of my bday and never look back.

[Jillysmom]

wow, not teaching her daughter a thing