beyond frustrated with my kids

[kj2915]

both my kids are at overnight camp this summer DD  1 is 12 and the other is 14. The first 3 weeks of camp they were very good about writing home my oldest wrote terrific letters atleast 1.5 pages long and my youngest not that long but was writing everyother day. They are suppose to write home at least 3x a week. I havent gotten a letter from either one since last friday and Im pissed. I send an email every night and write at least 2x a week to each of them. PLEASE dont say they are having fun that is why they arent writing I have heard that one before.  They are SUPPOSE to write home and it gets collected by their counselers each day...  Im getting them this weekend for visiting day and I am so mad that I want to tell them if they dont write at least 2x a week I wont write them at all...

Im going to make my DH get them I dont even want to go down there to get them.  Im in tears that I havent heard from them even though they promised me they would write since they know how upset I get .  I wont call camp beacuse i see pictures of them and I know they are physically fine and camp wont really do anything

what would you do ???????????   BTW- this is the 6th summer they have been away and each year this happens and each yr they say it wont happen the following summer

what

[bizzeemom2717]

 Honestly, it's too bad you are feeling this way, but making this all about you and punishing your kids for having a good time? You say "please don't say they are kids and having a good time"...well it's the truth of the matter. Please don't try and guilt trip them, I believe you prob sent them to summer camp to have fun, not because you expected letters 3 times a week? Idk, yep they maybe could write you more often, but they are kids at camp, I'm sure they are distracted.

[atlmom2]

I never wanted to write my parents either. Camp is about the kids. Leave them alone.

[NettePooh]

I remember being at camp
At this age.. I did the same thing! I got voted most popular camper after telling my parents I hated it!!

[atlmom2]

not to be mean but I bet they don't care that you email every day. Camp is about the kids. Let them have fun. If you don't want to be without them don't send them.

[fammatthews4]

I'm sorry but I honestly wouldn't be expecting or requiring them to write I think that is very selfish of you. Are they at camp to have fun or to improve their writing skills? I doubt it's the latter.

[askmommy]

I agree with everyone else here. You are lucky they write at all! I also have kids who go to camp each summer and the first few years sent them with materials to write home and was upset when I got very little. Now I've changed my tune and I'm thrilled with whatever I do get knowing they wanted to send it and weren't forced or dud it out of guilt. Let them have fun. Continue to write/email when you feel like it, but don't feel forced.

[MrsBLB]

I did the same thing that they are doing.  When you first get there, you write about how horrible it is, till you meet up with old friends and make new ones.  Sure, they could send quick e-mails updating you, but are probably tired and or visiting with the others in their rooms.  Be happy for them.  ((hugs))

[MrsBLB]

I do understand how you feel, I didn't or don't get much correspondence from mine either when or while they are away.  I see at no news is good news     : )

[MrsBLB]

And welcome to the group, glad you joined us    : )

[luckysevenwow]

I understand being hurt.....but being that pissed seems exteme and a little needy on your part. Sorry, I am not trying to be rude or mean, but they are kids away at summer camp. At some point they are going to run out of things to say, so they are probably thinking, why write a letter when nothing new or exciting has happened.

This is your issue, not theirs. Time to maybe loosen the cord a little and let them grow up.